Sunday 21 November 2010

How do i make a guy in school fall in love with me?

well im new in school in one of my class i met a guy.he is so cute i cant stop starring at him.theres a game in school called ZAP a friend of your would put a guys name if your a girl and a girls name if your a guy. my friend halley did that to my crush and wrote my name on his hand.so he asked me out i was so happy but i dnt have the courage to say yes so i said no....can you help meHow do i make a guy in school fall in love with me?
Go up to your crush and be like I was just a little nervous.....so if you can give me another chance..I would like to go out with you....How do i make a guy in school fall in love with me?
say YES say YES!
Every one has a FREE WILL, that means, we all have choices!

Because we all have choices, you cannot MAKE any one love you! You cannot even go look for love and find it! NEVER!



This is Natures issue! When Nature is ready, she will slap you across the face with the one it should be and there will not be one darn thing that you can do about it!



Nature does not care about culture, RACE, schooling, riches,

royalty, medical issues, fat, skinny, ugly etc etc.



And when she says NO! You will NEVER MAKE it happen.
no, you blew it.

Does he really love me? Or does he love my salami?

I have a pomeranian, and he only gets excited around me when I come home and when I act excited around him, and when I act excited the first thing he ALWAYS does is run straight to the fridge. Sometimes I wonder, does he really love me, or does he love that I (occasionally) give him treats? How do you tell when a dog is a gold digger? I've felt really unloved by him, ever sice he ';grew up'; (wasn't a puppy anymore) he doesn't even like when I pick him up. I think he only loves the fact that I give him food and tummy rubs. I doubt he would really rescue me from a burning building like the dogs I had as a kid would (they were golden retreiver/lab mixes and EXTREMLY loyal, loved me more than anything). He likes to growel at people who touch me, but I honestly believe that's for his own enjoyment much more than for my protection. =(



How do I know for sure if he's a golddigger? And if he is a golddigger, is there any way I can make him fall in love with me?Does he really love me? Or does he love my salami?
I'm sure he loves you. Try teaching him a few simple tricks. Take him for walks and do other none food things with him. The more you do with him the more attached to you he will become. Every time you get a chance give him a little pat. When he runs to the fridge ignore him. Every time you give him something out of the fridge it tells him the begging worked so he does it again. Poms seem to take a bit longer to show their loyalty and love - at least mine did - but it will come. Also some - again like mine - do seem to growl and snap at strangers. I think its because they are small they figure they will growl before that big person hurts them or their master.

Another thing that helped with my dog was obedience classes.

A Pomeranian will never be the same as a Golden retriever. They can't help it.Does he really love me? Or does he love my salami?
i dont know whether he really loves you or not but thats y i choose not to own a dog, most just want food, they remind me of scavengers
All dogs are goldiggers and master manipulators if you let the be. Don't be fooled... your dog is trying to train you. You have got to be the boss and let them know that you are more than the big human who gets the good stuff off the counter or out of the fridge. Only give her treats when she has earned them, never for just begging for them. Make her do a trick or obey a command she has been taught and then only give her treats occasionally. Her reward should be extra special attention not just treats.
it is obvious he loves u a lot because you are the person he asks for food!!!!

so wat if he does not like being picked up

he thinks of u as family and that's why u r the 1 he goes to wen he is hungry
All dogs love food. Some dogs aren't as affectionate as others. Pomeranians are smart little things and will learn to train you to do what they want.

I'm sure he loves you, and since he growls at people that touch you-that says right there that he feels protective of you. If he enjoyed it then he wouldn't growl.

Lab and Goldens are very affectionate breeds, so it may seem a little weird having a dog that can be more reserved.

I don't really see a pom being able to rescue anyone from a burning building though. They are just too small to drag anybody out.

I am looking for the title of a romance novel based in Seattle, WA?

This book was written by a Seattle writer. It is about a rich man that does not like witch craft and stuff. His mother thinks she cann make him fall in love by making him drink something but then the wrong girl drinks it with him...the gardener. He plans a with the gardener to make his mother and sister believe the stuff worked, but then he starts to fall in love with her. He is trying to build a new building in Fremont - The Center of the Universe - and she tries to stop it because it will ruin the Fung Sway (how ever you spell it) of the area. If you know the title and/or the author please let me know.I am looking for the title of a romance novel based in Seattle, WA?
Seattle on the Center of my Fung. (damn that was genious!)I am looking for the title of a romance novel based in Seattle, WA?
Try the author Marianne Stillings. She wrties romance novels set in Seattle and on the little islands near by. And it is Feng Shui. Pax - C
I'm not sure about this particular book, but it sounds very like the author Jayne Ann Krentz who writes stories centered mostly in and around Seattle (and lives there). She often talks about Feng Shui and usually has some mystical things in her novels, too. Her books usually have a mystery in them. Does that author sound familiar to you?



The only other author whose name comes to mind is Nora Roberts....sorry.



If no one here can think of the right author or book, why don't you try http://www.whatsthatbook.com/ and ask the question? You may have to wait a while, but eventually someone will know the answer.
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  • I am looking for the title of a romance novel based in Seattle, WA?

    This book was written by a Seattle writer. It is about a rich man that does not like witch craft and stuff. His mother thinks she cann make him fall in love by making him drink something but then the wrong girl drinks it with him...the gardener. He plans a with the gardener to make his mother and sister believe the stuff worked, but then he starts to fall in love with her. He is trying to build a new building in Fremont - The Center of the Universe - and she tries to stop it because it will ruin the Fung Sway (how ever you spell it) of the area. If you know the title and/or the author please let me know.I am looking for the title of a romance novel based in Seattle, WA?
    Seattle on the Center of my Fung. (damn that was genious!)I am looking for the title of a romance novel based in Seattle, WA?
    Try the author Marianne Stillings. She wrties romance novels set in Seattle and on the little islands near by. And it is Feng Shui. Pax - C
    I'm not sure about this particular book, but it sounds very like the author Jayne Ann Krentz who writes stories centered mostly in and around Seattle (and lives there). She often talks about Feng Shui and usually has some mystical things in her novels, too. Her books usually have a mystery in them. Does that author sound familiar to you?



    The only other author whose name comes to mind is Nora Roberts....sorry.



    If no one here can think of the right author or book, why don't you try http://www.whatsthatbook.com/ and ask the question? You may have to wait a while, but eventually someone will know the answer.

    How do you make a boy jealous without getting a boyfriend?

    okay so i fell in love with this guy and he fell in love with me... but then i ended it and now he has a girlfriend and i am super jealous because i am still not over him... so how do i make him jealous of me without getting a boyfriend? i want to just torture him and make him love me again but i don't know how because he just wants to be friends! helpp! its killing meHow do you make a boy jealous without getting a boyfriend?
    Just hit on a guy right in front of him. But I seriously suggest you don鈥檛 do that. You might really actually lose him. I don鈥檛 think you want that.How do you make a boy jealous without getting a boyfriend?
    If he has a girlfriend, forget about it. He's most likely over you and can't do anything about it.



    But if you still want to try, talk to a bunch of guys around him, touch them, ';laugh'; at their jokes, wink, do the girl thing...



    But make sure he sees it.

    Why have people put up with life? Whats the point of working to survive? Why doesn't the world commit suicide?

    Why have people put up with life? Whats the point of working to survive? Why doesn't the world commit suicide?





    As a student of history, I just can't understand why people put up with life. The world painted by evolutionary psychology is just brutal. Women are just rape slave, toys, and playthings for men to enjoy. But its not much better as a man, since while your sister and daughter might be raped and enslaved, you would just be killed off.





    What is the life of man? A brutal struggle of existence against both nature and man. What was the point of the slave and serf, working backbreaking labor 16 hours a day for some brutal lord who rapes his daughters? Can you really say that the serf or factory-worker made the right choice in living such a brutish existence? Why shouldn't he have just committed suicide?





    What makes human life so valuable that life is worth preserving for its own sake? Or is it just that we are programmed to survive by our selfish genes? And that our individual happiness means nothing to the gene who ';wins'; as long as it reproduces.





    If I was a religious man, I guess I would be a monk, and just endure the trials of life, till this hell was over. But what kind of God would make a world like this? I would have to be a Gnostic and believe that whomever created this hellish world was not benign.





    I realize that things are somewhat better now. But humanity is driven by the same cruel Darwinian biological nature. I mean how do you deal with man, when you know how insanely evil he is?





    These thoughts have destroyed my life. I'm practically catatonic. I can't get out of bed or go to school or get a job. I just don't get why any rational being would put up with the hell that is life. What possible pleasure could inspire it? Sexual pleasure? Love for wife or children? Both the vulgar lust and higher ';love'; are just the selfish gene playing you as a fool.





    If after all these centuries, and so much material progress man's ethics remains at the same level, perhaps even declining, then I see no reason that this generation is suddenly going to get it. If anything my generation seems to be the most comfortable with the human condition and rather cynical. So I certainly don't expect some moral amelioration of the human condition to come out of Generation Y. So if we are stuck with the world, cultute, and ethos of the present, what good life can one live other than gouging oneself on biological pleasure?





    Maybe I'm too harsh on humanity seeing them as ideas and spirits rather than gene machines. So I wont hate or condemn them anymore than I would a wolf or a hog. But I certainly can't live among them. So whats to become of me?





    I don't pleasure in anything biological.





    Fun and power don't appeal to me. It is true the dog eat dog ethos is antithetical to my beliefs. But it seems so entrenched and unshakeable that it might as well be objectively true. The only point of life is to be the strongest ape on top of a mountain of skulls.





    When I was younger I was more driven by ambition. And the better world I could create was perhaps only a figleaf for naked ambition. But slowly that seed grew until the cause mattered.





    Well anyway once I got to see the world as it was, the ideology that underlay it, and the hopelessness of changing it, I fell into deep despair. Life in a world like this is truly pointless and worse than meaningless. None of its joys have any appeal to me. There is no such thing as individualism. Everyone must accept the dominant ideology of the times. Your only deluding yourself if you think your a special unique individual. There is nothing more conformist than individuality.





    I don't care about free will. There is nothing glorious about free will. Other than natural disasters every act of evil comes from supposed free will. It makes no difference whether actions are determined by genes. The problem is what actions are determined. Sadism, evil, brutality, domination, cruelty. No rational being can coexist with humans. Your genes have to do all the work, instincts or your sunk. There is no greater curse than to be able to think and feel, but not be driven by genetic instinct in a world like this. The world as it is has nothing to offer me but torture. Simply coexisting with humanity is driving me to madness.


    Your apoligia for humanity bears no resemblance to the beasts that actually exists. I don't see humans trying to do good and trying to help each other. Humans are incapable of love. That is not the spirit of our age. Your coming from another planet. thats not the humanity I know. I have nothing in common with humanity. This does not make me superior. As far as survival of the fittest is concerned I'm clearly unfit to exist in this world.





    How dare my parents disturb my eternity of peaceful nonexistence and throw me into the hell of life! Why would I feel any gratitude for the worst Why have people put up with life? Whats the point of working to survive? Why doesn't the world commit suicide?
    I'm not reading that crap.





    But no matter what happens, life is better than non life.


    Why is it so hard for you to realize that.Why have people put up with life? Whats the point of working to survive? Why doesn't the world commit suicide?
    @gravity fox





    you cant really say that, considering the fact that when you're dead, you don't really give a crap.
    Where you lead, others will surely follow
    It it you, Lindsay Lohan? I know your court appearance was rough, but...





    Edit: There IS NO QUESTION here. It's a rant; a verbal dump in the darkest, most cynical terms. It appeals to emotion and and holds up a sign reading ';nihilism'; without doing the work to philosophically support the position. ';Nobody likes me... I'm gonna eat some worms.'; The Job-like ';curse the day my parents birthed me'; doesn't make this rant Christian. The emptiness of claiming everyone is a ';beast'; ';incapable of love'; attacks everyone who bothers to read it; it is not intellectual agnosticism. The ';thumbs down'; voting on emotionalism simply reinforces a perverse self-pity. The attempt at humor is nowhere near as tasteless as the rant from which it escapes.
    Its better to live than die, you wouldnt know what is awaiting you after death.





    Join organizations helping out the unfortunates, when you do good deeds, it will make you happy.


    or


    study religions, and try to discover which is the true religion





    take up an activity ectra
    To sum all 'that' up,, to remind 'you' that THIS is not Heaven!
    Well, I'm not going to read all that.





    This is a Q%26amp;A forum, not an essay forum.





    From the little bit that I read, I'll say this:


    If you do not wish to continue living, then you have choices, but it's not your right or place to decide if others wish to continue to live or if their reasons are valid.
    Ahhhh giant wall o' text. Runaway, runaway.





    Hey, don't project. If you don't want to live, don't. Most folks are driven to stay alive because our biology gives a strong survival instinct that it is difficult to overcome. If you're able to, good for you. Personally, I agree with Phoenix, both about ice cream and sex, but even more, putting the two together.
    Feel better?
    Most people are not as fatalistic as you, dearie. Some of us actually enjoy life.





    TL;DR - the rest of it
    You sound lost, Try God!
    yeah..... u kinda wasted ur time writting all that... no one is going to read it... I am no exeption. Here, I condensed it into this version for u.... (this is what u should have said.





    ';Dear Diary, no one understands me but u. I dyed my hair black and wear it covering my eyes, I wear eye liner and black nail pollish.... So why still doesn't anyone talk to me, or be my friend or want to have sex with me? I hate MY life. It is so cruel and cold. Speaking of colds, I really like having them... because then.... atleast... I feel..... something.. sniff sniff wahahahahah
    Based on your FIRST sentence .....





    Because we can find beauty, greatness, hope, love, fun, excitement, etc.... in every day.





    One just has to look for it.
    Humans are a stubborn species. Reguardless of how much humans screw-up, they have a tendency to go on as though nothing is wrong. Its something to do with the hard wiring in a human brain.
    My life is awesome. You are looking at the outside world for happiness, and you will never find it that way. You also can answer your own question, because why are you still alive? If you really believed it, you would have already killed yourself.
    Its a very simple answer to your question (well thought out, I might add); its because its what evolution made us. It gave us a instinct to survive. Those that do not want to survive will die. Those that do live on.





    There is no why about this... we are simply naturally inclined to survive, but we don't have an intrinsic justification for it. But we do so because it is an instinct, which, by definition, needs no rational justification.





    Despite priding ourselves on being ';rational animals';, we are simply following animal instinct. All of our actions are rational means to an irrational end; life, which has no rationality.





    Great question, and unfortunately, judging by the other answers, unappreciated.
    Hey I actually read the whole thing,I regret it...
    ';The world painted by evolutionary psychology is just brutal...';


    Straw-man right off the bat. It only gets worse from there.





    You don't like life? Do what you want with your life, it's yours.


    But projecting your silly ';psychology'; onto both science and everyone else is both arrogant and selfish. And shows a great deal of ignorance about what life and the world have to offer.


    So you've had a tough time -- boo hoo. Deal with it and do something constructive with the one life you have, or bail. Your choice. The rest of us have things to enjoy, things to learn, a better world to build and leave to our offspring, and experiences to savor.





    Peace.
    Unlike some of the people on here who don't actually care and won't read this forum. I read the entire thing and do care. I don't want to offer you any religions, ethics, or any other thing like that to change your life to a better life or a more peace filled life. They won't work! What I want to offer you is a personal relationship with a person. Not an ideology or teaching. But a real, living person! This person is Jesus Christ. The claims that he makes and the difference that He has made in so many people's lives, are unmatched! I notice that the problem you have is the inability to overcome the world. Read these words spoken by Christ: 33These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.'; If you put your trust in Christ (and not just His teachings) you will have the ability to overcome this world and the tribulations that it brings upon you. Life isn't easy! Everybody has experienced hardships and thought the world was going to eventually crush them. But it doesn't have to be that way. 14And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so must the Son of man be lifted up:





    15That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life.





    16For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.


    If you truly want to break the bonds of this world, put your trust in Christ! I will pray for you! God bless!
    God gave us life...





    To treat life with disdain is to dis-respect God.





    (Ecclesiastes 12:13) The conclusion of the matter, everything having been heard, is: Fear the [true] God and keep his commandments. For this is the whole [obligation] of man.
    “It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.”





    You sound like a perfectly rational and caring human being to me. Don't kill yourself just yet; there are lots of arguments against evolutionary psychology. Humans are more than just animals.





    I recommend you watch this documentary. It tries to explain why we live in such a sick society and may answer some of your questions. Parts two and three are also available on google video.





    http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=…
    Wow! Someones having a worse day than I am. I don't understand what the question is. Of what I could understand, you think love is something people are incapable of. I have to disagree, I think without love there would be little purpose to most things. I think the fact that you are hurting is prove that you are capable of love. We work hard so that we can enjoy the things in life that bring us joy, and most of us have days where we feel like giving up, but on those days when we do feel joy aren't we glad that we are alive to witness it. You are not unfit to exist in this world, don't ever let anybody make you feel like that. You have to live your life your way, and for you. Nobody is going to hold your hand when they bury you, so why worry about other peoples perception of you. I don't now what your parents did to ';disturb my eternity of peaceful nonexistence'; maybe they are worried about you. You sound really depressed and disillusioned, you should talk to someone about how you feel.


    08457 90 90 90 Samaritans


    1-800-273-8255.


    http://www.google.co.uk/search?hl=en%26amp;q=r…
    I'm having a good time.
    Well, Van, after reading your entire post, I can understand your point of view to a certain extent. To answer your question directly, in general, people put up with life as it is because they're grateful to even have it and some look to better others' lives. People work to survive in order to gain fulfillment and to take care of themselves and their families. Now you're right about what has gone on throughout history - the degradation of women, the use of free will for evil ends, the struggle of daily living, and so on. Naturally, dwelling on these things would bring anyone down psychologically. But instead of dwelling on how bad life can be at present and plunging into a state of catatonia, I implore you to get up and find out how life was originally intended to be, why it is the way it is right now, what is being done to restore life to how it was meant to be, and how you can be a part of it.* The only way you can do this, Van, is with a study of the Bible. In that study, you will find out that Almighty God did not create the world to be like it is today and that you can have a positive outlook on life because of the real hope that the Bible gives. Because of this knowledge from the Bible, over 7 million people live their lives with purpose and so can you. So, Van, if you're interested in this study, get up and search out Jehovah's Witnesses in your area at their local Kingdom Hall. Because of our genuine love for fellow humans, we are more than happy to help people learn what the Bible really teaches because of the peace of mind that it gives us amidst the problems we face today. You will come to know that Bible knowledge is the greatest source of happiness you can have and you will find deep meaning and purpose in your life if you take to heart the truths you learn. It's easier to coexist with fellow humans when you're happy, so try it, Van. I promise it will be worth your while. Best wishes.





    *We have a magazine entitled, ';Has God Left Us?'; that goes into detail on this very subject. You'll greatly benefit from it if you take out the time to read it. You can request this magazine from Jehovah's Witnesses.

    Is It Possible To Make Someone Love You - Is This The Impossible Request I Am Asking?

    I'm a young man approaching 20, I'm a stay-at-home university student. I work hard, I'm intellegent, I can be funny - I have understand how to prepare and build for life, and also to enjoy it along the way, I have many interests. Alongside my studies, I am self-employed; running my own coaching business, based around my primary skill/trade which I have practiced for a number of years.



    I find myself falling for a beautiful woman, she's stunning - but aside from her looks, she's very kind, friendly and a happy person to know. She is the sort of person I would like to spend more time around, and get to know better. Unfortunately, her husband died a few years ago - leaving her with a young son to care for.



    I teach her son my trade, for a small time each week - he's a really nice kid, and fun to be around. As much as I appreciate them both, and feel to be madly falling for her (and have been for a good period of time), she is some 15 years older than me, and I find it hard to justify that she could too pursue an interest in me. She puts great trust in me with her son, and appreciates the positive role-model I can be to him in this time each week.



    I've little interest in girls of my age, I find myself to have a different mentality to men my age - I find many to be immature and unsure about life. I'm not, I don't aspire to drink myself stupid each week, but to fall in love, be successful and happy.



    What should/can I do?Is It Possible To Make Someone Love You - Is This The Impossible Request I Am Asking?
    No. You can't make someone fall in love with you. Persistence is key when befriending a woman. Communicate to her what you feel. When you feel the time is right.Is It Possible To Make Someone Love You - Is This The Impossible Request I Am Asking?
    You can't ';make'; someone love you -- because then it wont be love. It's only love if its given freely.
    you could make him go out with you but then how fun would that be if he dosn't like you!
    You can't make someone fall in love with you just as they can't make YOU fall in love with them.
    Talk with her about it. If you really love her so very much, anything you have to say will be essential to your relationship with her now and in the future. You want to go into the relationship open and honestly. Let her know exactly how you feel and ask her about what she thinks on the matter. Be willing to accept anything she has to tell you, BECAUSE you love her.
    Tell her not me. She may have noticed how you look at her. In any event she'll know for sure and can make a decision for herself. Some woman are flatterd and into younger men(Cougars). Be prepaird for however for her to tell you she's not emotionally ready( recent widow stuff) or that she's dating someone else. Good Luck.
    I have two sides to this.



    I believe it's sweet that a couple could be together through love no matter what the age.



    Although, I have another opinion...It's horrible, but it seems to make people judge you by your age and think it to be immature to pursue, if you will.



    I am a person who will judge and consider it as your own business, as long as you are happy.



    Good Luck to you. Follow your dreams and your heart. Don't let others judge you. Be your own person.
    If she is not in love by now she never will be.

    Why do so many people stay with people who love them in some, but not every respect (sorry for the rant)?

    I've come across quite a few girls recently who are in relationships with guys who are very obviously not giving them everything they deserve on an emotional level and I know it's the same for some guys too.





    I have an idea of why this might be and if any of you fit the criteria as either partner in these relationships then your opinions would be useful.





    Basically, the way I see it is that we're all built to need love on a number of different levels. So while you may not consciously run down a list, you're most in love and emotionally secure when you're being loved in every way. But generally people are loved in a few ways first before they fall in love in the other ways. So maybe these guys treat you with love physically or in a friendly way in most circumstances initially and this makes you feel attached but then when he fails to commit on the other aspects of your relationship, you already feel too involved to break it off without causing a lot of pain. You might even care so much about him that you wish to protect him above and beyond your own self.





    But this is awful because I've also seen the end result of a relationship where people have stayed with someone who isn't giving them everything and they are so stressed out and they just become a shadow of themselves with no light to them. It's tragic because they were so beautiful and vibrant in the first place and if someone had truly cared for them in every way instead of trapping them with a little and denying them the rest, they'd have continued to be that person as they matured. Now they just fade and give up entirely or do what they should have done in the first place and leave - except now they've spent decades of strife, brought up kids in a less than happy environment and missed out on many of the joys of life. It's not the end of the world and it's better than wasting any more time but it's certainly sad to think that they could have avoided it if they'd given themselves their due.





    Generally they've spent years enduring childish tantrums and unnecessary fights and stress and it saps their energy and ages them. I just hope that anyone in this situation will either give their ';lover'; a chance to prove themselves worthy of them by loving entirely or ditch them for their own sake.





    At least act in some way to change your scenario because you only get one shot at this life so why endure more pain than is necessary because someone else is immature? You'd be better off never being with anyone and just hanging out with friends than enduring a negative relationship, loving someone who won't/can't/doesn't know how to love you back! Eventually your love will be killed off and it might be too late for you to ever trust someone else with your heart!











    I don't know if I'm right or wrong about this but it makes me sad because I know what it is to love someone completely and no one deserves any less! They might look at you and love you and they might make love to you and in these moments you feel loved but if that doesn't translate into you feeling loved in other ways then they're failing to give you what you deserve. If they can't treat you with love and respect at all times (even when disagreeing) then they're not loving you fully. I consider it an immature sort of infantile love where they're selfish so they can love you but that isn't their prime motivator. Rather, their needs are placed first and the second you make them have to put any effort into understanding you or helping you or anything else that (in their ignorance) they don't perceive any personal gain from, they just lose their head and fire abuse rather than love at you. And you, being a mature, loving person who has learned the wonders of unconditional love as you grew from your infantile state, just can't understand where it's coming from.





    A real lover will love you for ALL of who you are, even the things that they don't agree with or see as pointless even initially irritating! All of these things are part of you and unless actually harmful or dangerous etc. (Such as not loving enough!), a real lover won't try to change them or even complain about them. Instead, they'll eventually see them as just another endearing trait that makes up the whole package of you! And they love you!





    Making love isn't just confined to a sexual act, though that's very important too. Making love is in every act and encounter with a loved one. It's being their to comfort her and express your love and respect in every way. It encompasses caring for the girl (or guy) you love ESPECIALLY when it's inconvenient to do so because that's when you realise just how lucky you are to be in love with someone who makes you feel this way! The last thing you'd want to do is manipulate or change who she is.





    Being with someone isn't the complete assimilation of two people into one. It's a partnership between two INDIVIDUALS. You want to see them following their own path in life and celeWhy do so many people stay with people who love them in some, but not every respect (sorry for the rant)?
    sigh...





    Anyway, no guy ever starts out by saying, ';Hi, I'm an asshole, want to go out?'; They usually start off very sweet, telling us what they think or know we want to hear.





    I do not regret my bad relationships. They have gotten me closer to knowing what I really do want, and I don't plan on settling for less than that.Why do so many people stay with people who love them in some, but not every respect (sorry for the rant)?
    You are a mature person and see how immaturity screws up relationships. (congratulations, and you sound like a wonderful partner) However, I don't believe we can be loved for every single thing about ourselves. That's not humanly possible. What's needed is for people to decide on the standards they need in a relationship, and not lower those standards. Frequently, they toss the standards aside or never had any in the first place. Then they retroactively try to mold the person/relationship to fit the standards. And they stay in bad or disappointing situations because they continue to hope for magical changes that aren't going to happen.
    Agreed.. However there is an element you failed to mention, probably because it's the female half of the population that is most afflicted.





    I'm talking about trying to change someone or ';fix'; someone.. many times women stay in a relationship because they see the potential in their mate to give them what they want, and basically they end up wasting time trying to help their partner reach thier ideal potential. It's hard when you know someone can give you what you need but they won't because of problem X. Could be drug abuse, mental illness, emotional insecurity, or more often than not unresolved traumatic past issues such as molestation or family abuse/domestic violence.





    The worst part is men have a tendency to resist healing, and women have a tendency to force healing upon them. It almost never works.. You can't fix someone, you can't make someone better they have to do t on their own. Unfortunately many women remain in relationships because they cannot or will not accept that they can't change someone who doesn't want to change!





    So they stay and spend their life n a futile attempt to fix someone who won't admit they are broken..

    Have you ever felt trapped? How do I make myself love my husband when he's so mean and nasty to me?

    If I disagree with him about anything he looks at me with such hate in his eyes it chills my blood. He has a quick temper especially when he's tired and gets me in a corner with his hands on each side of me so that I can't move and screams loudly in my face. He says he isn't abusing me because he's not hitting me but he leaves my ears ringing and my hands shaking for hrs. Am I so wrong to have fallen in love with another man who's kind to me and loves me? I can't leave my husband and we can't be together for reasons I can't say but I love this other man deeply and he's all I have. People on here say I'm wrong (especially the men) but should I remain loveless the rest of my life? I have tried so hard to love my husband, over and over, but I can't. I plan to continue with this other man as long as I can. Am I so wrong to glean what little pleasure I can from life? What would you do?Have you ever felt trapped? How do I make myself love my husband when he's so mean and nasty to me?
    divorce sounds like the right move but jumping right into another relationship isn't the answer either. There are many issues with YOU that are not being addressed. Leaving one bad relationship without working on ones self first will only carry over into the next relationship. One must first learn to love oneself before you love someone else. Learn how to be compete without having to have a man define your happiness that way when someone comes along you can say Hey I was already happy before I met this guy he just further enhances my life. Sounds like you are depended on the other guy for happiness and people are not designed that way. Eventually you will disappointed and unhappy again. Seek a counselor and strongly suggest you work on self first.Have you ever felt trapped? How do I make myself love my husband when he's so mean and nasty to me?
    Thanks!

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    Leave you husband. There are different kinds of abuse physical, emotional It will never get better I know from experience and know I'm in the best relationship of my life. Is this the way you want to spend the rest of your life, find someone that makes you happy
    Sounds like the love is gone I would leave him, life is too short to spend time with someone you can't stand when you could be with someone you love
    you are giving the devil a field day--forget another man, make up your mind to love your husband, be devoted to him and answer his meaness with loving kindness, i would go to Jesus and trust in Him. You took vows, you are commited, just humble yourself, as long as you even think of another man--your husband will always appear bad in your mind.
    i understand u r not wrong. though i m a man but i feel u r not wrong. he s wrong for what he s doing .... but give him chance for few months or a year.... be polite in behaviour. dont object whats . in a couple there s one thing... among the two ,,, one must be calm and cool in case of discussions. dont disagree though he s wrong.... see .... u may win his heart.... dont be a sign of complain for him.... see his likes and dislikes.... if again no response after a year....or less.. then leave him .... he does not worth u....
    Dont say you cant leave its as easy as walking out the door. I walked out and left all I owned behind. I had to start over and it was the best thing i ever did. I don't nessisarly think what you have with this guy is wrong but what happens if your husband finds out it could be real bad for both of you do you realize that you are putting this man you loves life in danger by staying with your husband you need to make a choice and either leave your love and stay with this nut or crush the nut and have your love. You know as well as we do what he is doing is abuse and the police dont' like abusers neither do judges. So why are you still there?
    Your husband is emotionally abusing you. How long have you endured this? You are not wrong for wanting to be happy, wether you found it with someone else or not. My God! No one can live like you forever! You need to get away from that man like yesterday! Stop trying to love him and get out of there before he either hurts you or you get so fed up with the abuse and you hurt yourself! If you are still with your husband when the relationship with the other man comes to an end you will crash. I am saying this because I have seen it happen. Your whole world will implode on you. Don't let that happen! Get out while you have your sanity sweetie.
    why r you still there? go with the other guy he treats you the way you want so why r you not living with that guy ?let that guy help you get outta there ,run baby run...
    Move out and file for a divorce.You can't force yourself to love anyone that abuses you in any way.And he is verbally abusing you.Get out before it gets any worse,and it will,most of your abusers start out verbally abusing there victims and then they escalate to the physical abuse.I know from personal experience I watched my mother go through it for years before she was able to get away from her abuser.And he almost killed her.Don't take any more chances than you already have,GET OUT NOW.

    How to get him to say ';I love you';?

    First off, I know that you can't 'make' someone fall in love with you. That is not what I'm trying to do, I kinda think he loves me already. He's said it to me once before, but that was after a few drinks, and he pretty much told me point blank that night that he's too scared to tell me that any other time. The next day he restated that he thinks that all the time, thinks about starting a family with me one day etc etc, but that he isn't ready to say it. Well, I'm okay with him not saying it.. but only to a point. I'd really love to hear him say it, without any alcohol, just one of those things that I haven't really been able to get out of my head since the first time he said it... I really want to make him feel safe enough to say these three little words again. I love him, I don't say it to him all the time because I don't want him to feel he HAS to say it just to appease me, I want him to say it because he needs me to hear it. How can I make him feel safe saying I love you?How to get him to say ';I love you';?
    Action speak louder than words. If he love you and you knew, then it should be enough.



    It is meaningless to ask him to repeat it like parrot everyday.



    If you really like to heard it record it down in your MP3 player.

    Write the words down on paper and ask him to read it to you

    Then record it on MP3 player.



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    How to make the love of MY life love me?

    this is a tough situation so read it all and give me your best opinion please i need help with this



    ok so i met this girl we became bestfriends as she told me her life story dealing mostly with her asshole ex boyfriend who treat her like ****. he would yell at her and put her down all the time. but anyways i fell in love with her as we talked. i was over her house EVERY day non stop. i gave up smoking weed for her being shes against it. i wanted everything to be perfect with me and her i didnt love this girl i was IN love with her. so one night i slept over her house (as a bestfriend) we stayed up till 1 am talking when we had our first kiss. it was the best moment of my life...i felt as if i was floating and ive never felt that feeling when i kissed any other girl. but with her i felt the connection of love. and she told me she felt it too. so were both happy and both of us know in the near future we were destined to date. but then everything went down hill...she went to the beach and saw her ex boyfriend who she completely cut off and they got talking....eventually she tells me shes still in love with him and will never get over him.. shes talking about a guys who would yell, ignore, and lie to her on a daily basis. and then theres me. a nice funny guy with an amazing personality (not self centered i have people tell me im hilarious all the time) and all i do for her is make her nice little sweet love notes, help her with her problems and jst was at her side 24/7. and right now im deeply depressed i dont talk as much as i used too (which was alot) ive resorted to smoking marijuana to help with the sadness and it doesnt. thats how much i love her...a drug cant make me feel as good as i did when i was with her and i need to know any possible way to get her back. you can tell me personal stories or ideas. im all ears but i need this problem fixed so i can return to a normal life instead of being in a depression spiral so please help meHow to make the love of MY life love me?
    hey man i am almost in that same position.... except my best girl friend is currently dating someone... and ppl say the same stuff about me that they say about you... and i cant stand that other dude..... her and i tried dating before but it just didnt feel right because were so close.... but just recently we had a very deep convo that lasted probablly over 5 hours and now i feel so much closer to her than i ever did before and she feels the same about me.... she knows i like her and i know she likes me its just shes in that relationship and im not going to ruin her relationship because i want her to be happy because when she is happy i am happy and when she is sad i am sad.... so basically just talk to her about how you feel about her and how she means everything to you and tell her how you feel about her ex... just dont be too pushy with her and except it if she chooses him over you... because in the long run you will win her heart! i hope this helps

    (10pts) Is the man I'm in love with emotionally abusing me?

    Last year I met an incredibly strange and mysterious man. He's 31, and I'm 20. We quickly became close friends, and then lovers. He left his girlfriend and moved into my neighborhood. Every night before he goes off to bed in his apartment, he drives down to have dinner with me for an hour.





    He's a business man and is always at the office, but he sees me as often as he can.





    For a year, he filled me with sweet promises and plans of marriage. However, he always had excuses as to why we shouldn't be ';boyfriend/girlfriend';, and why we have to stay in secret. He was afraid that people might look down at him about the age difference, he thought he wasn't good enough...bla bla bla. Recently, he admitted that he's just ';not ready to be committed to me.';





    This man has been making love to me with his words and his body now for a year, and now suddenly he's not ';capable of being in it romantically';?





    So no one knows about us. He pretends like we barely know eachother when we're hanging out with mutual friends...but then every evening he comes and smiles and hugs me and tells me he loves me. It's so confusing. When I press him and tell him he needs to get his act together, he gets angry and says that he already gives me as much time of his day that he can (which is the 1 hour in the evening). He lives a stone's throw away, I can see his parked car whenever he's home, so I know he doesn't go out and sleep with other people. He also says I'm incapable of being sympathetic to his plight, and that he's also in pain. It's hard to be though, when he holds all the power and choice to make me happy in his hands. When I accuse him of not loving me, he looks disgusted and threatens to leave me.





    I am so besotted with him. I can't stop thinking about him. Sometimes I think that he forced me to fall in love with him...because it's almost like I had no choice. I'm completely at his mercy, and I try so hard to break away because whenever he isn't holding me, I feel unloved and ignored by him. I'm so used to being treated like gold by men. In past relationships, men have worshiped the ground I walk on. So it's hurtful to have a guy have sex with you and tell you that he loves you every single night, and then have him ignore you throughout the day and know that he could disappear and no one would even know that we shared something special.





    Something about this relationship isn't healthy. I know this. I've tried to break it off several times, but each time he tells me ';we're going to work it out,'; and then I think ';I'll try again.'; He asks me to be patient with him, but I don't know how long I can be before my heart just breaks.





    I want to make it work. And he's always willing to love me...he just can't seem able to take it that extra mile and commit to me immediately, even though he always hints that we'll be together in the future.





    Help! I need outside input and an outsider's perspective.(10pts) Is the man I'm in love with emotionally abusing me?
    His ';plight';?? He's in ';pain';? Give me a break. You're being played, girl...and this guy sounds like he's pretty good at it, but I can see right through it.





    ';whenever he isn't holding me, I feel unloved and ignored by him'; -- He WANTS you to feel that way, so that when he does come around, you're grateful to see him.





    ';He was afraid that people might look down at him about the age difference'; -- Bullsh@*#. No one's going to look down on him and he knows it; if anything, his guy buddies will high-five him for having a hot young girlfriend. It's an excuse.





    ';we have to stay in secret'; -- You gave quite a few excuses for this...and you're absolutely right. They ARE excuses. He doesn't want anyone to know that he's dating you exclusively because he wants to seem available for other women. Just because you don't see his car move doesn't mean that he's not sleeping with other women. Men can be VERY sneaky about it; all that time he claims to spend at his job is very likely a lie, he probably leaves early all the time and is sure to get home at the same time every day to keep up appearances with you. Don't think that men won't go to so much trouble! They totally will. Think about it...he's gone to the trouble of creating a web of lies to keep you securely in place.





    ';He asks me to be patient with him'; -- He's using this one to appeal to your better nature, as well as his crap about how much pain he's in. He wants you to feel sorry for him, and he wants to force you to be all gracious and kind-hearted and crap so you'll overlook all the things that don't add up.





    ';He pretends like we barely know eachother when we're hanging out with mutual friends'; -- He wants his friends to think he's available so they're sure to introduce him to other women.





    ';it's hurtful to have a guy have sex with you and tell you that he loves you every single night, and then have him ignore you throughout the day'; -- EXACTLY. He knows it hurts you. Any idiot would know. And clearly you've expressed your emotional discomfort at this. Yet, he continues to do it. If this man cared one bit about you, he would NOT want you to hurt like this. If he really loved you, he would be PROUD that he was in a relationship with you, he would WANT everyone to know! That, my dear, is the bottom line. There are no excuses for this man. There are no circumstances. He's a bonafide player, and you deserve so much better!





    Personally, I think you should call him up and tell him to f-off. Seriously. And when he starts whining that you can work it out, remind him that he's said the same things five thousand times before and you'll be trading him in for a newer model...for a boyfriend that will actually tell people he's in a relationship with you. Tell him that you're SO over him, so he can feel free to bring his other secret girlfriends around. :)





    Oh and don't worry, he'll never do it because he'd be scared they'd find out about each other.





    Good luck, and get rid of him!(10pts) Is the man I'm in love with emotionally abusing me?
    Sounds Like He Is In Another RealationShip Hun, Maybe You Should Talk To His Friends Or His '' Ex ''
    It kind of sounds like he's married and you're the mistress. might want to check that out.
    Yeah, there is definitely something wrong there - at least you see that. I personally think he likes having you wrapped around his finger and powerless.


    It is kind of confusing though. I don't understand why he wouldn't want anyone to know about you - it's not like it's illegal or something.


    I think it's possible that he's kind of using you. I mean, he says he loves you and you say he only sleeps with you, but he doesn't want commitment? That's a little ridiculous if you've been sleeping with him for a year and he talks about marriage and stuff. Like the other two people said, you might be his mistress.


    This really isn't a good situation to be in. I think you should leave him for sure. It will be hard since you're so infatuated with him, but it's not healthy to feel this way.


    You'll have to ignore him and really step back from the situation. Is that ONE hour a day REALLY worth all of the other hours you feel emotional turmoil over this? I don't think it is.


    You really really need to leave him and not let him swindle you into getting back with him.





    I hope I helped a little. Good luck :)
    Outside prospective .....PLEASE .... inside prospective ....HUM ....I like outside perspective and pandoras gem bracelets ...and a new cd disc of my cowboys .... how giving are you?How smart are you ? hummmmmm I like chocolates too...orange creams!
    He really doesn't sound like he's to serious. Sounds like he's trying to keep you holding on by telling you this and that so he can continue to have sex with you. If he really wanted to be with you nothing would stand in the way. Cut the sex and see if he stays around. He's leading you on and telling you want he thinks you want to hear. Break it off with him for a while and see what he does. Maybe he has a significant other, why do I say that because for one you have known him for a year and two he wants to keep it a secret and the final one is he just can't seem able to take it that extra mile and commit. Even though you care for him i would forget him and fine someone else. Don't let him use you. Talk is cheap without action. Good Luck.
    I think you're spoiled....period. And i think you let a man walk all over you and take you for granted. You seem like you expect alot from a man, especially in this case. It seems like this man just wants to be your booty call, your gigalo. He wants to have someone there for him when he needs to get his rocks off. He might love you and all but it doesnt seem in the way you want him to love you. Are you sure you are the only woman this guy is playing with? I dont think its the age difference he is worried about. Seems much more than that. Like he is leading a double life and somewhere he is married and has children. Many men who have younger girlfriends love to brag, take my man for example. He is 40 and I am 27 and he loves having a younger wife. There is something there that he is just not gonna tell you. And you can bug and bug but it seems like this man is here to play, not stay...sorry.

    (10points) Is the man I'm in love with emotionally abusing me?

    Last year I met an incredibly strange and mysterious man. He's 31, and I'm 20. We quickly became close friends, and then lovers. He left his girlfriend and moved into my neighborhood. Every night before he goes off to bed in his apartment, he drives down to have dinner with me for an hour.





    He's a business man and is always at the office, but he sees me as often as he can.





    For a year, he filled me with sweet promises and plans of marriage. However, he always had excuses as to why we shouldn't be ';boyfriend/girlfriend';, and why we have to stay in secret. He was afraid that people might look down at him about the age difference, he thought he wasn't good enough...bla bla bla. Recently, he admitted that he's just ';not ready to be committed to me.';





    This man has been making love to me with his words and his body now for a year, and now suddenly he's not ';capable of being in it romantically';?





    So no one knows about us. He pretends like we barely know eachother when we're hanging out with mutual friends...but then every evening he comes and smiles and hugs me and tells me he loves me. It's so confusing. When I press him and tell him he needs to get his act together, he gets angry and says that he already gives me as much time of his day that he can (which is the 1 hour in the evening). He lives a stone's throw away, I can see his parked car whenever he's home, so I know he doesn't go out and sleep with other people. He also says I'm incapable of being sympathetic to his plight, and that he's also in pain. It's hard to be though, when he holds all the power and choice to make me happy in his hands. When I accuse him of not loving me, he looks disgusted and threatens to leave me.





    He's offered to cut the sex out completely, many times. He still sticks around when there is no sex. And we have a lot of mutual friends (none of which know of what has been going on between us), and they've all known him for years...and they know he's not married or with anyone.





    I am so besotted with him. I can't stop thinking about him. Sometimes I think that he forced me to fall in love with him...because it's almost like I had no choice. I'm completely at his mercy, and I try so hard to break away because whenever he isn't holding me, I feel unloved and ignored by him. I'm so used to being treated like gold by men. In past relationships, men have worshiped the ground I walk on. So it's hurtful to have a guy tell you that he loves you every single night, and then have him ignore you throughout the day and know that he could disappear and no one would even know that we shared something special.





    Something about this relationship isn't healthy. I know this. I've tried to break it off several times, but each time he tells me ';we're going to work it out,'; and then I think ';I'll try again.'; He asks me to be patient with him, but I don't know how long I can be before my heart just breaks.





    I want to make it work. And he's always willing to love me...he just can't seem able to take it that extra mile and commit to me immediately, even though he always hints that we'll be together in the future.





    Help! I need outside input and an outsider's perspective.(10points) Is the man I'm in love with emotionally abusing me?
    When a guy says he not good enough for you, BELIEVE HIM!


    You're a booty call and you always will be.


    He offers to not have sex because he knows you'll reject that.


    Age -- smage; he's using you and he doesn't want his friends to meet you because you're not part of his real life.


    Don't let him rent any more space in your head, otherwise, he'll rob you of the best years of your life.


    If he wants you back, you'll have your power back and you can demand that he meet your standards.


    Be your own best advocate.


    He's a sleaze and you're not. Redirect your energy towards a man who is good enough for you.


    God bless.(10points) Is the man I'm in love with emotionally abusing me?
    It's pretty obvious that he's already married and you're the mistress. Maybe you need to open your eyes.
    He sounds bipolar :P
    this guy is seriously screwing with your head.. if he really loves you, why doesn't he show you every hour of the day, no matter who you're with? age doesn't matter in love. if you truly love someone, you're proud to show it no matter what. this guy sounds a bit strange. i think he knows that you're totally committed to him and will do what he wants, but when you cross him he turns psycho! that just doesn't sound right to me.





    next time he says that he's in emotional ruts, sit down and ask him exactly what's wrong. if he loves you and you love him, he'll share with you his feelings, his struggles, his life story. maybe there's a part of him that really is hurt and can't seem to be secure with himself. everyone you know is going through a battle, but you deserve to know what his is about.





    if this doesn't work, maybe you talk to a friend of his, as an outside observer, about why your man is the way he is. you don't have to say that you're involved, but you're just curious. maybe they know something about him you don't.





    I hope this helped and I hope your situation gets fixed. It's hard being toyed around like this, but you seem like a smart young woman who has her head screwed on right. If he keeps screwing with you, then you have every right to leave him. If any more threatening gets involved, you know that you need to leave. I hope this isn't the case.. good luck.
    Every relationship is different, there are reasons that people do certain things in relationships. Its not very clear why if he is so in love with you why he wouldn't just say he doesn't care about what other people think, if the excuse about your age is the truth. This might not be what you want to hear but maybe he is just using you for the emotional benefit you get out of being in a relationship but maybe he is also looking for something more permanent in other people
    yES, IM SORRY that im the one to tell you this but yes he is. he has you in the palm of his hands. your eating up all of his crap. Your beautiful and strong and smart and everything takes time. even you recognizing emotional abuse. it started out that way with my mom and then it became physical. short story short she ended up with 63 stitches in her face. don't let it get that far. you hold the power. how? because your a woman, you bring life into this world. without you men are nothing.

    After being in a relationship with someone for 5yrs how do you make him fall madly inlove with you all over ?

    again?



    ok so we've been together since highschool im 21 hes 22, and well our relationship has become a little boring, and i feel that hes starting to take me for granted. idk if its just me and my emotions, but i just dont feel that he loves me like he first did. i know he DOES still love me, but not like he once did ya know? so how can i spice things up and make him fall crazy inlove with me all over again??After being in a relationship with someone for 5yrs how do you make him fall madly inlove with you all over ?
    wow, thats awesome you've been together since highschool.But i get that yea, it would start to dull down a little, i mean when your in school you meet different people, hang out with different guys and date lots of cool guys, but when you find your special someone so soon in life, it shuts all that away from you. I know, my friend is in the same situation, although we're still around 16 or so, i think her bf is getting a little distant. I think you just really just need to do something crazy and wild to get his attention back again girl!

    It may be cheesy lol, but go out and buy a sexi school girl out fit, and re-live one of your highschool moments, where you guys made out or whatever you got upto =P even better, go to a spot where you guys hung out to make it a little more personal, and just look at him and talk about how you guys met and the works.

    This really does work, and guys seem to get turned on by this! ive seen it =D

    so yea, just have fun because you know he loves you to death!After being in a relationship with someone for 5yrs how do you make him fall madly inlove with you all over ?
    You are just super comfy with each other, and you forget the excitement feelings you once had.



    You need to do something which you did when you first started dating to bring back those feelings.



    Do you on out on dates still?

    Do you have time for whole days just with each other?

    Maybe take a trip away?



    You need to talk about this because he is probably feeling the same way.
    sexier and hottier sex action! it works all the time!
    you cant MAKE anyone fall in love with you. it has to be of their own free will.

    Please read...i know this is long but ur advice myt change my life...how can i make him fall hard for me ? ..?

    Last year, i went to UAE and met the man of my dreams...%26lt;3

    ...funny...loving..caring..sweet..smar鈥?gentleman..

    we went out every two days...we were so much in love ! ..we had that..connection..u kno ? what we had was truly special n i hadn't felt that way with other boys...n he felt the same way about me

    everything was perfect...we were perfect..but then i had to travel back to pakistan for my studies n he had to go to UK for his studies...

    we stayed in touch online..emailed eachother everyday...talked on the phone every other day..but then somthing went wrong..i dont know what happened ...he got really busy with his studies and started coming online life 3 days in a week...thats how our conversation reduced to minimum...

    however, when we did talk...he never realli...joke around like before...he got more serious....n seemed kinda mean...he sometimes wouldn't even reply to my msgs on facebook ! ...and then one day he ...broke up.....without a reason ! ....all he said was ';i'm not sure what i feel for you is love or just attraction'; ...i was shattered ..torn apart...but i tried to keep myself together and told him its okay he can take his time n we can continue our friendship....

    but still its not like before...i know he isn't seeing anyone .....i know him VERY well......he is very honest n would've told me if he liked someone else...

    i dont know why he broke up....n i'm still in love with him...and am hoping to somehow win him back

    we're meeting again this summer...in june..what can i do to make him fall hard for me ? don't say stuff like ';have hot sex with him';

    oh n jst to let u all know...sometimes he is kinda mean but sometimes he is jst the most caring sweetest person ever ! he wasn't like that in UAE ..is he just stressed because of studies ?

    i need real answers from relationship experts ! n i want positive answers......don't bring me down

    i still feel we have that special 'connection' between us...i just wanna know what went went n how can i make him mine ? .....help will be GREATLY appreciated %26lt;3Please read...i know this is long but ur advice myt change my life...how can i make him fall hard for me ? ..?
    He most likely thought that the relationship was not going to work. I imagine that exams stress could have amplified these feelings and he lashed out at you because you were there to be lashed out at. If you had a great a connection as you say then all you really need to do in the summer is just be yourself. I know that personally being with a girl with a highly positive attitude constantly, that always smiles and isn't afraid to diasgree with me - who is actually a completely different person - it doesn't just feel like I'm talking to a robot that is gonna just agree with me, I know that this would make me like their personality more. He already admitted he's attracted to you - he said he's not sure if you had is just attraction. What he means by this is that you have to re-ignite your spark. The best way to make him fall for you is have a personality he desires. This is hard to do as everyone desires different things and most of us don't even know what we desire exactly. Try different style such as funny, shy and silent etc until he seems to like that style. The best thing you can do is make him remember you and want to see you again. Do have sex but leave it til last and tease him about it - slowly seduce him. Try and have as much fun as possible, do stupid things together like water fights. Make every day count. But relax and be yourself and smile as well. Sunny weather I think can amplify feelings that you remember -whenever I remember the summer it always seems happy and fun. There is one thing you could try. I don't know if you have ever heard of Nlp -neuro linguistic programming. You could try mirroring his moves to build rappor. Every time he takes a drink you take a drink, every time he scratches his nose, you scratch yours this can work and it will build unconcious rappor if done right. Also let him be a man. if he holds the door open for your then walk through it and say thanks, if he offers to pay for food then let him. Mostly just be yourself ans always be happy. Don't be nervous and don't try to hard just relax and enjoy.Please read...i know this is long but ur advice myt change my life...how can i make him fall hard for me ? ..?
    No problem ^-^

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    you cant MAKE someone fall in love with you.. whats ment to be will find its way.
    just talk with him. ask him questions. act interested and like you want to keep your relationship going! maybe he thought you were drifting away from HIM! get all of the facts strait, and be yourself. you don't want to make him fall for a fake you!

    you could also play hard to get.. but that generally is hard to do. just the best friend he could ever have and make him realize what he's missing!

    good luck!!! :)
    try your best to not seam....unusual, ya kno? just smile. laugh, maybee he was just that way online because he never got to see you. i know you talked everyday but he might think talking to you in person was much better then online. i'm sure he'll seam much happier when you guys get a chance to talk in person again, but i'm not sure if you should count on dating him again, if you do, you may end up on opposite sides of the world again, and the past would repeat itself. just hold ur head up high and remember theres MILLIONS of guys, maybee BILLIONS in the US alone, you'll be sure to find another that will be PERFECT for you!

    Im in love with a player..how do i get him to want me?

    im in love with a player. over the 3 years i've known him, i've fallen in love with this guy. and hes SUCH a player! we hooked up (made out), but he doesnt know im in love with him. i've only seen him twice over the summer, and last time i saw him, we didnt even say hi to each other. anyways, i am determined to get him to love me and love me forever. (i know you cant make someone love you, but you can do everything you can to try). he likes outgoing, smart, bubbly, sometimes funny girls. my plans to get him so far are:

    -be myself around him, but be outgoing and make him comfortable.

    -be confident too.

    -build a solid foundation for the relationship by becoming close friends with him. we get along nicely. and this way, hes less likely to betray a friend then just some girl. he has dated many of his friends that are girls btw.

    -flirt with him. see how he responds to it. make it light, make it heavy, whatever. but make sure you guys are flirting with eachother!! :)



    one problem i have is once he wants me, i will give in to what he says. like if he says wanna makeout? i'll makeout with him (because im in love with him, duh). but then the chase is over, and he gets what he wants and moves on. i cant do that. i want to get him and keep him forever. i think if i tease him, this might spice up the chase. but how should i tease him? im only 14, im still learning. (dont lecture me on my age..i am in love with him and have been for a long time..this is not just a crush/fling/whatever. i have tried many times to get over him, but i cant. i am determined to get this boy and keep him forever). also, after the teasing and once i give him what he wants (and i want too) how do i get him to stay with me? should i not hook up with him and only focus on being in a relationship with him and also building a friendship? but hook ups are better than nothing!! what do i do? i am so confused. but how do i get him to stay once the chase is over? do i just become really good at making out and stuff? how do you get a player to stay? i guess he has to like you? so that goes back to being myself with him and letting god handle the rest..but i am determined to get this boy. what do i do? so basically:



    -how do i tease him and make the chase more interesting? tips?



    -how do i get him to stay with me? be myself and see if he likes me? become good at making out? anything else?



    -any other tips and help on things i should do when i see him?





    please help! thankss and god bless you:)Im in love with a player..how do i get him to want me?
    Don't let him know you like him. Guys, specially players, love a challenge.

    Flirt with him and tease him like you said, just do it naturally, but don't give in.Im in love with a player..how do i get him to want me?
    i didnt read the whole thing but based on the first question i can say this...players may want you but they are going to want 3 other girls to so MOVE ON NOW
    wow, that was long! anyway, yeah you're 14 which is young and ur prolly gunna laugh about this crush later, trust me. i wouldn't get involved with a player he will just play you too, it kinda sounds like he already has a couple times, since u said u guys have made out before. i would ferget about him, go find a guy who is worth it, and doesn't just want to make out. good luck.

    How can you make a guy truly fall in love with you, not just your body?

    I truly care for this guy and he cares for me as well. Actually, he can barely keep himself a foot away from me when we are in the same room. I know he likes my personality, but how do i get him to be just as interested in what's on the insides as what's on the outside?





    I want our relationship to last, I don't want this to be the typical ';one-week romance then break-up'; scenario.





    He's a good guy, I want to keep him around for a while.How can you make a guy truly fall in love with you, not just your body?
    Oh gee,





    I had the same thing going on.





    LISTEN %26amp;%26amp; Listen closely;;





    Call, Text, Or in person.


    (better in person, cause you can see his reaction)





    But you ask him, ';Why do you like( or love, which ever you fell better saying. ) me?





    If he says, ';cause your damn hott';, or something like that.





    Then FORGET HIM !





    If he says cause '; Your so beautiful, your eyes make me weak';, stuff like that.





    He means it.





    And its true.








    I'm 13.


    Went through the same thing.How can you make a guy truly fall in love with you, not just your body?
    That's a big order, Sometimes you can tell if it's you he loves and not a sexual attraction. There are men who'll care for you, do things for you and let everything take it's course. Men don't seem to understand that first you have to be a friend then a lover and sex is something you have to earn. I went with a girl once and didn't have sex with her until 2 months later. I waited for the right time and never was pushy. I was a real gentlemen about it, but it seems not these days, sex is the first thing on a young mans mind.
    Tell good guy to give you your personal space. That's not love. You can't make anybody fall in love with you. If you like him, so be it. If he likes you, great. But you can't force feelings on someone. As far as him loving your body, cover it up and regain your space and start having some real conversations and then see if he still treats you so well. If not, good guy might have his head in another place.
    You can't make anyone fall in love with you. But, if you want to make sure that he gets to know you for who you are first and doesn't see you as only a sex object, then just make sure to hold off on the physical for a while. Hang out, have fun, go to dinner, movies, spend lots of time cuddling and talking. Just take it slow and let things happen as they will.
    Be honest with yourself..........and him. Open you mind to him.


    You would like it if he was always open with you, correct?


    Then give him the same. Set a guideline for both to follow.


    Go somewhere where you two can be alone. A park for example.


    Set him down and tell him you need to tell him what's on your heart.


    Hold both his hands, look deep into his eyes, take a deep breath and speak from your heart and from your soul.





    If this is real and meant to be. He will hear you and then you both can work on a compromise together.


    Good Luck ~Cat Man~
    I have the same problem I would maybe try to pace things he could just be really passionate. Sometimes guys can be this way sounds like he's really into but sometimes it can be too much. I would try to show him you care and pace it or just give in if it doesn't last it's not meant to be
    It sounds like he likes the whole package. If you want to keep him around, don't go to bed with him right away. Make sure he has deep feelings for you first. If he is the ';good guy'; you say he is, he'll understand you wanting to wait. If he does that, he's a ';keeper';. Good luck!
    The best thing to do? Don't have a physical relationship with him until the emotional bond is established first.





    If you have sex, or even make out too soon or too often, he'll associate you with physical pleasure. If you want a guy to appreciate you for your inner beauty, that's all you should show him until he can respect you for it. Good luck!








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    Well ask him would I be the kind of person you would like to marry. Try to comment him alot that will probably work. Also say you love hime alot more.
    love cant be forced and you cant make anyone want to love you and another thing if you want someone to like you for you then i would try not having sex with them and see how much he REALLY CARE about you
    If your meant to be together, your meant to be together. You can't make someone love you. They have to love you back.
    youi can;t make anyone fall in love with you . but if you want him to se you for you then you do other acvitys and make sure you go in a group and hang out with others
    if you care for this guy do staff that make him happy but not with you body
    be yourself and no one else. that is the best thing you can do to make someone fall in love with you.


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    Try not to wear clothes that... you know. Let him know you can still be pretty and pure inside and out.
    You can't MAKE anyone fall in love with you. If it's meant to be it'll happen.
    Well ya cant make him fall in love with you not your body ! sorry, just depends on the guy weither he see's you for you or just a peice of a** !
    Don't sleep with him right away. Wait a few months at least. That way, he'll have plenty of time to get to know you first.
    It dosen't have to be an ';either / or'; situation.
    don't move too fast.


    especially if your not even dating


    and you can't MAKE a guy fall in love with you


    just be yourself
    ummm you say he likes your personality that's on the inside not on the outside ... so umm yah w/e kids ... gotta love em
    Lily, more stuff. Dunno how old you are - wassup?
    talk to him!
    you cant
    Of course, keep the physical things on hold and let him get to know the real you, and keep things fun and interesting. Keep yourself busy as well. Don't act like you cant ever be alone. Show him you have a lot going on yet you still love making time for you and him. Assuming you haven't slept with him yet, it sounds like youre on the right track. But ultimately, you shouldn't worry too much about making him do anything, because nothing forced ever turns out the way you want it to. If you two are meant for eachother, it will happen, just make sure you keep respect as the number one aspect of your relationship and you can't go wrong :) Good luck!!
    Be as modest as anything....





    There's a girl at my school that I like, scratch that, love. I love her unconditionally and would literally do anything in the world for her.





    The thing is, the reason I first liked her was obviously her looks. Then I started to notice how much I liked this girl more than any other girl. I noticed she wasn't the ';hottest'; or the ';sexiest';. However, I noticed she was the most modest. In a school where skirts can't be more than 2'; above the knee, and where most girls where it at like 5'; or 6';, she wears hers at about 1';.





    So I guess, just be modest. That way, when the guy eventually ';has'; you, you'll mean a lot more to him because of how long and hard he had to get where he is, if that makes sense.

    What's true love? Is this true love?

    I was with a guy when I was 15 he was 19. We loved each other. But he left me because he was a ';gangster and couldn't be in love';. We we're together for 6 months. He was my first boyfriend, first love, I lost my virginity to him. I loved him so much once when we we're making love I looked up and looked into his eyes and I just knew we we're meant to be I can't explain that look..





    We broke up got back together..I ended up cheating on him, and I wouldn't leave my boyfriend for him even though I still loved him. He would treat me like sh*t when we got together again.. We never told each other we loved each other but I loved him with all my heart and soul. I'm sure he did too.. But we broke up again because we fought too much about the past...





    We went our own ways. I ended up sleeping with 5 other guys, I've had so many boyfriend I can't even remember how many.. Some have told me they're in love with me, but I don't feel the same because I didn't feel for them what I felt for my first love so I leave them and break their hearts and trust me I do.





    Now I'm 18. In July I met a guy. We've been ';together'; ever since. I say it like that because he says we're not dating because he never asked me out but it's like if we are we're always together..I started falling for this guy. I told him I loved him. And I do, not the way I loved my first, no doubt about that but I love him.





    But my first love walked back into my life. We talked and I saw him two nights ago. It was amazing. He told me he loved me. That he's missed me all this time he still thinks about me. That there has been other women but it hasn't been the same like with me. When he told me loved me he had tears in his eyes and the way he looked at me, I can't explain it. He told me he's going to propose to me. But that please don't mess with him. He said he went back to Cali in the summer and he would wake up happy but there was something missing. I said me messing around but he looked at me and said yes he tried forgetting me but that he can't and he doesn't know why.





    And how can I even explain how I felt? To put it simply, I can't. I felt like I would explode with happiness when we kissed. There was so much emotion, not lust because to be honest that's what I was expecting that's what I thought he wanted, to have sex. I began to fall asleep be just sat there stroking my hair looking at me. He told me that it's ok to fall asleep that he would take care of me. But I didn't we just stayed like that for awhile looking at each other lost in our thoughts.





    I just want to know..What's true love? How do you know when it's for real?





    My mom told me to get to know him again.


    My cousin was in shock when I told her, she hated him, but she told me that he sounds serious.


    And me? I fell in love with him all over again if that's possible.





    I never stopped loving him for a second.


    He told me that he's scared. That he wants to be with me more than anything but that he doesn't want me to mess with him. He said he wants to be with me forever but not to start anything again if I'm not serious because he loves me more than anything and if I don't want to try it again then it's ok he's strong.





    I want to be with him again more than anything.. But at the same time I feel bad because of my ';boyfriend'; he's the first guy I've actually felt something for since my first boyfriend.





    I'm scared, I don't know what to do.


    I just know in my heart that me and him are meant to be but I'm scared. What if he hurts me again? What if he decides once again that he's too gangster for love? He admitted that there's detectives going to his house for somethings he did in Cali and he might go back to jail. But he also said that he'll change for me, if I give him another chance he'll make up for all the times he hurt me and he'll change, he'll do anything for me.What's true love? Is this true love?
    You need to...Never mind. I am not going to touch this one. Best of luck.

    How can I make a bristish guy fall in love ?

    I had meet a british guy in the Internet and after two month finally we met by person. He kissed me and told me that he likes me. But after that he seams to don't be more interesting about me ??

    How can I tell him about my feelings , if seams to be that he runs sways fr

    me. Now he don't write me so often as he used to do. And when I see him

    by the IM he Barrely speaks with me .

    Also can somebody explain me what is the meaning of the word... '; I like you!?';How can I make a bristish guy fall in love ?
    What? There's a magical potion that makes men from different countries fall in love with women?

    Woah, I did not know that....



    Anyway, you can't make someone fall in love with you, you can, of course, change yourself in order to be liked but that ain't gonna help. If the guy doesn't love you it's nobody's fault, that is just life...How can I make a bristish guy fall in love ?
    it depends on how he used to be with you and how he is now, its got nothing to do with where he is from.. men all over the world act like this sometimes ( not all men ) ask him what he meant by the kiss- was it a goodbye kiss or an actaul 'i like you' kiss... he shouldnt mess you about like he has- wither he like you or he doesnt and you deserve to know the truth about it
    He lives in Brittan and you live in the States. That's why he isn't talking to you. He knows that it won't work. If you two did fall in love, one of you would have to change countries and change your citizenship and its very difficult. You'd be far away from your friends and families too! Long distance relationships don't work. Find someone closer to home.
    First of all, you're stupid for meeting up with someone from the Internet. You've never heard the stories of freaks pretending to be someone else? Let me tell you this true story; A girl of about 17 had met a guy through the Internet. They became great friends, and decided to meet each other in real life. The girl snuck out to meet him, and when she went to meet him he seemed totally normal, like your guy. He was the same age as her, 17 years old.When she got back home, her parents caught her and made her squeal. Her parents said she could NOT go out with him again, unless they met him first. Seems like the right thing to do, eh? So the girl invited him over. He proceeded to execute her parents right in front of her. She then was sold into Human Trafficking, if you don't know what that is look it up on Wikipedia. It's basically sex slavery. And it's happening ALL around you. Please heed what I'm saying, this is dangerous, and I don't want to hear about you on the news tomorrow featured as ';Missing';.

    HELP ME make sense of what he is doing before I fall apart!

    Ok ill try and keep this short.


    I started dating a guy I had known from uni last june. We were inseperable and things were great. We barely ever fought and if we did he was always so sweet and would insist that I dont sleep on a couch etc if I tried to.


    Then summer came and I had to stay at uni (for work) while he went home to australia. Things were going on ok but it was a 3hr time difference and between my job, training and getting calls from him I was exhausted. I would only get about 4hrs sleep a night and I was living all alone with no tv or computor and this phone wasnt cordless so I was stuck in the hallway talking often missing making myself dinner.


    Anyhow I broke down just before christmas. I told him I wanted a little break and that I was going home for christmas so I didnt want to talk again till i had had a good sleep because I was scared I was going to loose it. He pushed and pushed and would start calling 5-10 times a night and I just had to ignore the phone. Then he would ask me heaps of questions and one of them was ';do you still love me'; and in my anger at him for not giving me sleep time I said ';no, well i dont know, ill let you know once Ive calmed down';


    Anyway of course I love him and I did tell him this again but things were falling apart between us so I booked a flight and went and suprised him by turning up at his place in Australia on New Years Eve. He seemed so happy to see me and we made up straight away. I apologised for being so hurtful but tried to explain how lonely and tired I was and how that made me make stupid decisions.





    He forgave me and went on to spent another 8months with me. But yesterday he started acting weird, I thought it was because we wernt having so much sex (I had got a UTI and wasnt feeling it obviously) so i said ';yeah hun, we arnt having so much sex, you think its causing a rift between us?'; and he said ';we have had a rift between us for a long time';


    its true once he came back he didnt treat me sweet anymore and couldnt care less if I sleep cold on the couch. He always says how much he loves me but now hes saying he doesnt know how much.





    He has done this before and I thought he was just trying to hurt me for what I did to him over the summer.


    He had forgiven me and even got me to book a ticket to australia to live with him this summer because he promised we would ';never be apart again because he didnt want to lose me';


    Now he is saying he doesnt think I should come live with him in Australia.





    I think he is deliberately trying to hurt me.


    I asked if he would ever go back to the bf I had before xmas and he said he 'didnt think so'





    I dont know what to do. He has already broken my spirit down many times over this topic and I know I was totally wrong to hurt him that summer. But why would he have stayed another 8months and made long term plans if he had felt a rift that long ago?





    What are your thoughts? What should I do?


    Is there any way I can bring my old BF back and if so how?


    How can I make him love me like he used to?





    PLEASE HELP ME


    I dont think I can live without him. Please dont say there are more fish in the sea. Just help me with this one!HELP ME make sense of what he is doing before I fall apart!
    it sounds like hes losing his feelings for you and the longer that you hang on the more miserable you will be. It was selfish of him to not try and understand how tired that you were in the first place. If hes treating you badly, why would you want to keep him?HELP ME make sense of what he is doing before I fall apart!
    After reading this i think its best that you both try to find someone new it seems to me that the space between you both is just growing bigger by the day if he told you that he doesn't think he can go back to being the boyfriend you had before christmas than i don't think its going to work you both are hurting yourselves i would honestly say its going to take a lot to save this and maybe you both are better of being distant from eachother as for moving with him i wouldnt do that either not the way things are going right now. And trust me girl you'll be able to live without him becuase in all reality your going to want someone to love and respect you the same way you love and respect them he doesnt sound like that person
    how old are you, and second i think you should have sex with him, because i dunno thats breaking u guys up??
    The relationship has deteriorated , the relationship IS deteriorating - its only going to get worse - EVEN if it gets better for a while





    Whatever happens make sure its ended with him having respect for you!
    My opinion is to give him some time and space so he can decide what he really wants. And I've noticed that with most people, when you give them the cold shoulder, something happens psychologically and they start to feel that they may lose their partner so they quickly wake up and start paying attention again. I think you should tell him that you're going to let have some time to think about the relationship. Don't call him or email him. Tell him that you love him but don't act or show him you're desperate. If he really cares he will not need much time to think. Another advice is if you do get back together please show him and always tell him how much you care. There's is nothing a man won't do for a loving caring woman.






    I tried to make this short?





    You would make a great comedian.
    Hun, I'm a guy who's been around a while and been through alot relationship wise.


    It does sound like he's putting you through something but to be honest, whenever someone did to me what you did to him and then we got back together, I really never felt as close to that person. i always resented that they had such little concern for my feelings that they would just say they wanted a break and didn't know if they loved me anymore based on being tired. If you love someone you get through those issues.





    The only recourse you have now, based on his extremely cold and unfeeling answers to your questions, is to tell him you're not happy with the way he's acting and his answers prove to you that he won;t be the person you fell in love with so you're leaving him. This will have one of two results.





    He will realize what he's done and take you back and, trust me, be much closer to you this time.





    Or...he will not change and you've absolutely done the right thing in getting rid of this dick.





    He forgave you so, even though it takes time, after all these months he should grow up and get over it or move on.





    Anyway, walk away hun...you'll either get him back new and improved...ir you got rid if an soul sucking anchor that would only cause you pain anyway.





    Good luck,
    tell him how u reeely feel pour your heart out to him
    how is that short





    i can't help if its too long
    He doesn't want to be with you, but he's dragging his feet. That whole, 'mad love, I don't think I can live without this person' feeling will dissipate with time. You're just being emotional right now. Always remember, words stick for a long time, and we have to be careful about saying things we don't mean ... it's not easy, but we still have to think about it.
    wow...


    All i can really say, is that you cannot make someone love you.
    Um....


    Sorry hun, I know you said not to tell you this, but if he's treating you like this (and honestly he's just being an asshole) you have to let him go. Why be with someone who hurts you so much keep hurting you and not care that he's hurting you? This guy's not going to be treating you any better. I'm not saying to dump him immediately, just tell him if he doesn't stop treating you like he doesn't love you anymore (or if he doesn't love you) you are going to break up with him. If he doesn't stop, follow up with the threat. I know, that's not easy. But it has to be done. There's absolutely no way he's going to change if he's still holding a grudge over something that happened a while ago. You need a guy that will forgive and forget. As for ';making him love you like he used to';, you can't force love.





    Sorry hun, I know you didn't want to hear this, but it's what has to be done in the situation.
    You cant make any one love you.And why would want to.When you love some one you give that love freely.Please dont waste your time trying to make this guy love you.You are the one who is taking the fall not him.Believe in yourelf dont let any one jerk you around and make you miserable.It took me a long time to realize something.And that is I can be miserable by myself I dont need some one in my life to make me that way.Look get rid of this guy now and dont look back.You will be happier trust me it may take a while but you will.Remember believe in yourself.Good luck to you.
    I think that you are stronger than you think and I have no doubt that you can live without him. He is insecure and immature. You need to stay away from him and get your own life back on track and hopefully he grows up enough so that he can straighten his life out as well.





    Concentrate on your education and/or profession. If you are in a situation where you must continue to have casual contact with him, just keep it friendly, but keep your distance. If he is worth keeping, he will get the idea and grow up.





    If he continues to behave in the same manner as before, then you may have to take action to force him to keep a respectable distance. He is a borderline stalker now and you may have to resort to legal means to keep him at a safe distance for your own protection.
    The guy is a nut case he wants to hurt you for hurting him. pay back is a ***** either move on and find other people to be around or put up with the emotional abuse it is your choice to stay or leave. Good Luck
    nooooommmmaammmm
    If you know God you need to pray and ask God what you should do because you don't need to stress yourself. Pray about it and you change also maybe y'all need a break from each other. He seem that he need some time to think and if he is young he really don't know what he wants I don't care what he said 8 months ago. As hard as it my seem start to act like him. Treat him the way he treat you.