is it good? need some fixing? or too bad?
i look at the moon
stare at the stars in the sky
i can only think about you
and it just makes me cry
why cant i have u?
just look once in your eyes
why it never feels ok?
why do i have to say goodbye?
how did i fall in love with you?
u made it feel so right
and now i wont forget you
you're all i think about at night
i remember u wen i pick a rose
when i see a beautifull sight
when i look out my window
you simply never leave my mind
i just happened to love you
from the very start
and i promised my self
that u'll always have my heart
u make nothing feels wrong
every word u say is just gentle and sweet
like a little bird's song
that makes my heart skips a beat
you are what makes a song has a meaning
what makes love feels worth the pain
what makes good when its all bad
just like a warm dance in the rain
what makes the gray skies blue
and what makes the sun shines again
you're the music to my soul
the emotion i cant control
the one that i want here
u make my worries dissapear
and take away every fear
i just want u to know
you're far yet so nearShould i send him this ?
woowww....thats really good. only thing i would look at is a couple of times you used a plural of a word when it should be singular but that is a very beautiful poem.Should i send him this ?
spellcheck it first. Lots of mistakes in it
yes, its very passionet and it really expresses how you feel.
send it! :D
what the H$LL is that?
yes.
tatas good
Who is it to? If he is that important i would not only because you dont want to sound desprate.....It is a good peice of writting.
I love it. I felt your emotion in it
it might make him feel awkward. :C
awwwwwwwww thts really sweet
but mabe change the line tht says ';i remeber u when i pick a rose'; to some thing else cuz ik most guys dont like being compared to flowers but other then tht its awsome
Sunday 11 December 2011
How do i make him fall for me again?
okay so story is.. Me %26amp; this guy were dating for some time %26amp; i was completly in love with him. %26amp; he has convincied me that he loved me as well.. but he said when we wer together all he wanted to do was talk to me %26amp; it wasted to much of his time so he needed a break to get some things done. so i gave him a break, still in love with him, he goes out with my bff and told me it was cus they never even talk and she really liked him. i flipped. but let it go, so they broke up he tells me he loves me still %26amp; wants to hang next weekend and go back out %26amp; blah blah blah. so my friend messages him saying do you like marissa. he goes no. and she said then why you tell her that,. he said um i didnt bye. and so i thought, wow. i dont wana like someone who is gona deny me. so i said to leave me alone, wanting him to say no and come back to me. yea didn't work. so now we arnt talking.. its been three days only, but its killing me. what do i do? how do i get him back? i dont wana seem clingy, but i dont know how to not..How do i make him fall for me again?
Girl listen to what I'm about to tell you.. Leave him alone. You're the girl who he's just gonna keep going back to for a ';good time';. He's a jerk. If you go back to him he'll just break your heart. A friend of mine had the same problem. The guy ended up leaving her... for the 2nd time. If you go with him again, you're just setting yourself up for disaster honey.. Get back to me for more adviceHow do i make him fall for me again?
you brought that on yourself.....you caused this mess. go talk to him. thats as much as i can say...
Girl listen to what I'm about to tell you.. Leave him alone. You're the girl who he's just gonna keep going back to for a ';good time';. He's a jerk. If you go back to him he'll just break your heart. A friend of mine had the same problem. The guy ended up leaving her... for the 2nd time. If you go with him again, you're just setting yourself up for disaster honey.. Get back to me for more adviceHow do i make him fall for me again?
you brought that on yourself.....you caused this mess. go talk to him. thats as much as i can say...
Everytime i try to leave him something keeps calling me back what should i do?
I'M IN LOVE , WITH A GREAT GUY WHO CAN TED TO BE AN ASSHOLE BUT HEY THAT'S HIM AND THAT'S WHO HE IS SO IDEAL WITH THAT, BUT THAT'S NOT THE PROBLEM I BE WANTING TO SPEND TIME WITH HIM BECASUE OUT OF SIGHT OUT OF MIND, I KNOW THAT YOU CAN'T MAKE ANYONE FALL N LOVE WITH YOU OR EVEN LOVE YOU BUT I REALLY DO WANT TO WORK ON WHAT EVER ME AND HIM HAS AND TRY TO MAKE IT MORE THAN WHAT IT ALREADY WHERE JUST FRIENDS BUT I'M READY TO SETTLE DOWN WITH HIM, NOW HE IS NOT READY FOR ALL THAT YET BUT I'M NOT READY TO MOVE ON JUST YET BECAUSE SOMETHING IS TELLING MY TO STICK WITHHIM AND STAY, HOW DO I GO ABOUT AND HANDLE THIS WHAT DO I DOEverytime i try to leave him something keeps calling me back what should i do?
To be honest I think that you are feeling something that he is not feeling and that he may never feel for you. He maybe his holding on to you because he needs somebody to be by his side at all times and not just sometimes. You are in love with him and he is Berry seeing you as a close friend. You can not but your all, and all into something and you are reserving half of it back to you. This man is holding you back from the love of your life that is out there waiting for you.
You should just be friend with him and not let your feelings get all court in the middle.
Another thing, if he really don't want to be in a relationship / get close you can't make him and if you try to make him it may push him away from you. Image if you were in his shoes what would you do and how would you go about the issue.
You are have also said that ';SOMETHING IS TELLING MY TO STICK WITH HIM'; what is it and can it help the two of you group to become partners someday. Don't think about it to long, just make the correct dissension
To be honest I think that you are feeling something that he is not feeling and that he may never feel for you. He maybe his holding on to you because he needs somebody to be by his side at all times and not just sometimes. You are in love with him and he is Berry seeing you as a close friend. You can not but your all, and all into something and you are reserving half of it back to you. This man is holding you back from the love of your life that is out there waiting for you.
You should just be friend with him and not let your feelings get all court in the middle.
Another thing, if he really don't want to be in a relationship / get close you can't make him and if you try to make him it may push him away from you. Image if you were in his shoes what would you do and how would you go about the issue.
You are have also said that ';SOMETHING IS TELLING MY TO STICK WITH HIM'; what is it and can it help the two of you group to become partners someday. Don't think about it to long, just make the correct dissension
If you have two enemy families, how can you bring them together in one room peacefully without casualties?
I'm writing a book and it's based in Scotland in 1309, but my main character is a woman from 2009 who went back in time. She is related to one family and is suppose to marry the leader of the other family but she needs to make him fall in love with her. I need a way to get the two warring families together peacefully so she can have a chance to make him start falling for her. Any ideas?If you have two enemy families, how can you bring them together in one room peacefully without casualties?
Why not have their overlord be having some sort of gathering. Unless they're on opposites sides of the Bruce/Balliol feud, this would allow them to interact. Perhaps, a third party gathering. You could make the host someone too powerful to offend, or even make it overseas in Denmark, with the sides currying favor.
Although, given that Christmas wasn't that big a deal in that time period and the hardships of midwinter travel, the idea of a midwinter gathering that doesn't involve people staying for an extended period is rather ridiculous. You just didn't travel that time of year in Scotland, so they'd be there for a long period.
That sparks a different idea, why not have both sides forced into the shelter of a third party during a blizzard? They'd be forced to respect the host and not have open warfare, but you'd still have all the intrigue and maybe steal a bit of Shakespeare and kill off Mercutio.If you have two enemy families, how can you bring them together in one room peacefully without casualties?
I think you need to win the other family over one by one. It's too hard if everyone is hating everyone else. If she can gradually bring one person at a time to her way of thinking and then when the two families come together she has support on both sides and they can help her convince the rest of the people.
I think it's too hard just being her against everyone.
Okay, I have absolutely no knowledge of Scotland in that time, but could you have some kind of Christmas ball type thing where both families are invited? A little bit of dancing, a few drinks, maybe some mistletoe...? Any kind of party that was thrown by someone both families know would be good. Hope I helped!
I'm with Annie, a Christmas party they both attend would be a good idea, maybe have the young children getting along, or a well respected individual introducing the head of the families to one another, so they have to pretend to like one another, and find that they aren't so bad.
Why not have their overlord be having some sort of gathering. Unless they're on opposites sides of the Bruce/Balliol feud, this would allow them to interact. Perhaps, a third party gathering. You could make the host someone too powerful to offend, or even make it overseas in Denmark, with the sides currying favor.
Although, given that Christmas wasn't that big a deal in that time period and the hardships of midwinter travel, the idea of a midwinter gathering that doesn't involve people staying for an extended period is rather ridiculous. You just didn't travel that time of year in Scotland, so they'd be there for a long period.
That sparks a different idea, why not have both sides forced into the shelter of a third party during a blizzard? They'd be forced to respect the host and not have open warfare, but you'd still have all the intrigue and maybe steal a bit of Shakespeare and kill off Mercutio.If you have two enemy families, how can you bring them together in one room peacefully without casualties?
I think you need to win the other family over one by one. It's too hard if everyone is hating everyone else. If she can gradually bring one person at a time to her way of thinking and then when the two families come together she has support on both sides and they can help her convince the rest of the people.
I think it's too hard just being her against everyone.
Okay, I have absolutely no knowledge of Scotland in that time, but could you have some kind of Christmas ball type thing where both families are invited? A little bit of dancing, a few drinks, maybe some mistletoe...? Any kind of party that was thrown by someone both families know would be good. Hope I helped!
I'm with Annie, a Christmas party they both attend would be a good idea, maybe have the young children getting along, or a well respected individual introducing the head of the families to one another, so they have to pretend to like one another, and find that they aren't so bad.
Fell in love with a guy who is a jerk to me because I'm fat =(?
I've known this guy around November. He's a marine. The first time we met, it was a blind date off Craigslist... yeah - I know =T and he said ';wow, I didn't know that you were big, I thought you were just chubby';
Anyways, he stayed around because he said I was really pretty but I was a big girl. We had sex and were dating and such but he would always make fat remarks and touch me around my tummy and crack jokes.
Fast forward, on Christmas he broke it off with me because he said I was fat and wanted nothing to do with me. He said he felt sorry for me and was just tagging me along. He did this AFTER I picked him up from the airport and made him dinner. (he used me to drop him off at airport which was a 40 minute drive and pick him up from after his 2 week vacation making me thing we were bf/gf and didn鈥檛 drop the breaking up stuff until AFTER I cooked him dinner and did all this stuff)
He broke it off. Then he afterwards kept contacting me and calling me on yahoo messenger, e.t.c. So we got together and fooled around again and I thought we were dating. He said we weren鈥檛 - so I assumed friends with benefits.
Later comes to realize he told me that he planned on marrying me when I lost the weight because he said I was a good potential wife. I just thought he was kidding but he was serious.
I never did lose the weight (even though I鈥檓 trying really hard for myself %26amp; my health though) - and he would say mean things like, I don鈥檛 like fat people - I would rather get a prostitute then associate myself with a fat person. ';Id rather have a skinny hooker then a piece of lard any day'; Let his friends say mean things about me and pretend their him overseas and send rude emails like 鈥渉ave you lost weight yet?'; ';I don鈥檛 like fatties';.
Now he says he wants NOTHING to do with me.
I sometimes ask - so what if I lose the weight? You would try to get with me? He would say - I don鈥檛 want to answer ';what if's'; because I know that will never happen.
He also said I would be out of his league if I did lose the weight because I鈥檓 pretty - so that鈥檚 why he sort of kept me around. Also that he鈥檚 really shy to meet other girls and that he鈥檚 with me only because he鈥檚 lonely and stupid comments like that...
I know I should move on鈥?but should I just lose weight for myself and leave him alone? Or should I lose the weight for myself and make him regret how much of a jerk he was?
The thing is... I'm scared that if I do meet him again - He'll make me fall in love with him again... =(Fell in love with a guy who is a jerk to me because I'm fat =(?
Wow, what the hell. I think you should work on your own self worth, and stop deprecating on yourself. Just because your fat doesn鈥檛 make you less of a person. and the fact that you allowed him to treat you like that since day one does not bode well for you. why should he treat you any different if that鈥檚 the way he has been treating you since day one? Why don鈥檛 you focus on yourself and what you want because frankly I think your with this guy because he verbalizes the things that you feel you are worth. Do you think someone like that will care once you lose the weight? Their will always be something to feel bad about, regret, or get you down in life. why don鈥檛 you find someone who treats you with more respect then you seem to treat yourself. Not to mention, don鈥檛 think just because you are fat that means you wont find someone. Go to therapy and work on you inner issues because that鈥檚 the only way your ever going to crack the outer ones. Dump him, work on yourself, and I hope that you have an emotional and spiritual wake up and realize your self worth.Fell in love with a guy who is a jerk to me because I'm fat =(?
lol
Big girls are best in bed in my oppinion but yeah he is a jerk for using you like that.
you should move on. believe me there are plenty of guys out there that think you look beautiful.You deserve someone that thinks youre pretty and will make you feel it.
Only lose the weight if its for you. Definitely lose the chump, though...
Lose the weight, get a new bf, and takes pics with your new bf holding your hot new body and send them to him. This guy is a total asshole and is NOT GOOD for your self esteem. Just stop talking to him and stay away. He'll get his one day.
Dump his azz and find a better guy. And never go on dates on Craiglist... that place is full of losers and serial killers.
WOW.
he is a ******** jerk.********.
okay,
let's see what i will do if im in ur shoes.
hmm.
i would lose the weight and dressed like a hot babe go see him, and after he completely wooed by my gorgeousness and cant wait to get in my pants, then magically walk away.
here's my dialog.
me(dressed really hot.): hey (whatever his name is)
him:wow..you are gorgeous....
me:thanks.
him:want me to buy u some drinks?
okay.
(chatting)
him:will u marry me?you are so gorgeous...
me:oh i want u to meet someone(magically pulls out your boyfriend(whom u met when you are not so skinny.)
then watch his expression.
but seriously, he obviously is just treating u as a **** buddy. basically his sex toy or something.
and u said he wanted to marry u ONLY when u got skinnier?
are you kidding me???
if he truly wants to marry u instead of just want a girl to show off as arm candy then he will marry u when ur chubby!
okay, are you really obese? or overweight?
if yes, then i would suggest you lose weight until you reach a healthy amount of weight for your height. it's for your health reasons.and more guys to check u out!
if no, then i say don't lose weight.why would u lose weight to only impress a guy?and the guy isnt even truly love u.
he is using u sweetheart.
it makes me furious just think ';Anyways - fast forward, on Christmas he broke it off with me because he said I was fat and wanted nothing to do with me. He said he felt sorry for me and was just tagging me along. He did this AFTER i picked him up from the airport and made him dinner.';
what a ********.
he is always on the chase, let's say ur married to him and got skinny,what if when ur old and wrinkly, he's finding some young and hot girls to screw with?
drop him.
i say you drop him right now, he is so not worth your time when he's making fun of your body!
i would personally seek revenge on him though.
i want to kill him right now, seriously.
WOOO!
First of all. Be PROUD!
and second of all.
Lose weight and make him feel like a jerk!
make him regret everything. you'll find so many men that want you, he wont even be an option anymore!
He's effed up and has issues...you need to get away from him. CRAIGSLIST??? If you can trust someone through craigslist then you both have problems. People aren't even serious about buying on there...let alone relationships.
You shouldn't have to do anything to yourself unless it is for your happiness, not his. The key is that you should love yourself, no matter what other people think. Your true love will love you for who you truly are, imperfections and all.
You need to stop torturing yourself, and stop letting him pester you. This guy is a jerk. He does not treat you right, and does not deserve you. If he wanted to marry you, he would love you for everything you are and are not.
So stop letting him hurt your feelings. Loose complete contact with him and start a fresh life.
this is going to sound harsh, but i gotta say it...you would be a fool to have anything to do with him, ever again, whether or not you lose weight. whatever changes you make to yourself should be for the purpose of making you happy and healthy, not satisfying a superficial jackass. it might be hard, but trust me, nothing good can come of having anything to do with this guy. good luck and be strong!
omg no one desever an *** hole like him
he deserves to go back to iraq or whatever and get shot
****
i take that personally cuz anyone who is made fun of for being fat should never try to get with the person who is teasing them
It doesn't matter how much you weigh....if he loves you the way you deserve to be loved, he wouldn't care.
girl im kinda chubby to you know what works buy alli drink straight tea take the pills eat healthy work out do it for yourself.
Do what you need to do about your body for yourself, never someone else. Hopefully you have learned that you should never allow someone to disrepect you and keep on dating them. Find someone who loves you the way you are, whatever way you are at the time. I'm a big woman too, and my bf absolutely adores my body. Get rid of that effing loser.
this guy's a total jerk! i can appreciate that he can see that you're beautiful despite your size but he shouldn't be so vain and conceited. if you want to lose weight, do it for yourself and forget him. if you do see him again and think you're in love with him then it's just lust, plus i don't think that sleeping with a guy before marriage is really right (no offence)
Screw him! Ok lose the weight for you and make him wish he never joked about you. If he tries anything just mimic him, tell him ';im out of your league';.
I am 99% sure you know what to do already without advice but here goes. He sounds like a real turd and more but I can't put it in writing as that is not allowed here.
He is a classic ';user'; and you are much better off without him in your life. Looks are superficial to many people and they value the person for who they are not what they look like. If you want to lose weight do it for you and nobody else. Don't do anything because someone else told you (especially after all the verbal abuse he gave you).
Think of yourself --
Take care and be good to yourself.
There will be someone else who you will care about and they will love you for you!
Sal Can
Definitely loose the weight for yourself. It will make you more confident and find someone that would treat you good even if you did gain that weight back at some point later on.
If you do meet him again, i suggest not getting back with him, but do what you think is right.
once again an example of a man bein a pig lose the weight because u want to not because he wants u to and if do lose the weight u should meet up wit him again just to show him what he lost for bein such a jerk to u weight doesnt matter all that matters is that the person ur with makes u happy (if u do meet up wit him bring friends along with u so ur friends can help u not do anything with him)
Forget the fact that he is a jerk..
Why do you allow yourself to be treated like this.
If its not him it will somebody else.
People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you.
So what if your fat?? I'm sure this marine has got way more problems than you do.
Get some counseling, a new phone number, and a pair of walking shoes.
He is the biggest jerk ever!!!! NOBODY deserves to be treated this way! He dos not deserve you at all don't give him a piece of mind at all. You should lose weight for yourself!!! And when you do don't get back with him just remember how rude he was you deserve better! And trust me honey u can find better!!!! He will regret letting you go! Don't let people like this into your life they are worthless and don't deserve any of your time!!!
Okay, you must have some serious self esteem issues to back to a guy like that. I would've never gone back to him the first time he broke it off with me for a reason like that. You should find someone new, get out, be yourself cause a guy like that does not deserve a girl like you. The only reason why you keep going back is because you feel rejected, but you have no clue that there is going to be other great guys that will treat you way better than that.
Okay for one, never let a guy ever dis-respect you like that. Men will be ***** but at the same time if that was me and it was such a big deal that I was a ';big girl';, the first thing I would have done is kicked him to the curb. For somebody to break things off the way he did was not right and you dont deserve that, I mean telling you its over because you are fat? Thats especially not right. He's toying with your mind and seems a lil like he got you rapped around his finger..Also, if he broke up with you like that and said he just felt bad for you why would you go back and lay down with him? He is just using you to get in your pants. Which is not right, but you are following. To say that he was going to marrie you if you lose weight is not right either, dont blame yourself for him not marrieing you bcuz you did not lose weight, he is doing that for laughs to you and his buddies. Trust me I know how it feels to be a bigger girl, but never step down to anybodys level. I was a pretty heavy kid growing up and in my teen years started to thin out but now I have to lose it all in two months after I have my baby. Things are confusing im sure, but let him go. Find somebody who will love and care for you, you deserve much better.
Girl, you DO NOT need a guy who is going to treat you like that!!! Love is about being comfortable with the person your with. Do you honestly feel comfortable with him when he makes all these remarks about you? Do yourself a favor and move on. Try losing the weight so you feel better about yourself and then next time he sees you he is going to regret how bad he treated you. But just forget about him, the right guy will come your way. A guy who will accept you for who u are. Good luck!!fast cash credit check
Anyways, he stayed around because he said I was really pretty but I was a big girl. We had sex and were dating and such but he would always make fat remarks and touch me around my tummy and crack jokes.
Fast forward, on Christmas he broke it off with me because he said I was fat and wanted nothing to do with me. He said he felt sorry for me and was just tagging me along. He did this AFTER I picked him up from the airport and made him dinner. (he used me to drop him off at airport which was a 40 minute drive and pick him up from after his 2 week vacation making me thing we were bf/gf and didn鈥檛 drop the breaking up stuff until AFTER I cooked him dinner and did all this stuff)
He broke it off. Then he afterwards kept contacting me and calling me on yahoo messenger, e.t.c. So we got together and fooled around again and I thought we were dating. He said we weren鈥檛 - so I assumed friends with benefits.
Later comes to realize he told me that he planned on marrying me when I lost the weight because he said I was a good potential wife. I just thought he was kidding but he was serious.
I never did lose the weight (even though I鈥檓 trying really hard for myself %26amp; my health though) - and he would say mean things like, I don鈥檛 like fat people - I would rather get a prostitute then associate myself with a fat person. ';Id rather have a skinny hooker then a piece of lard any day'; Let his friends say mean things about me and pretend their him overseas and send rude emails like 鈥渉ave you lost weight yet?'; ';I don鈥檛 like fatties';.
Now he says he wants NOTHING to do with me.
I sometimes ask - so what if I lose the weight? You would try to get with me? He would say - I don鈥檛 want to answer ';what if's'; because I know that will never happen.
He also said I would be out of his league if I did lose the weight because I鈥檓 pretty - so that鈥檚 why he sort of kept me around. Also that he鈥檚 really shy to meet other girls and that he鈥檚 with me only because he鈥檚 lonely and stupid comments like that...
I know I should move on鈥?but should I just lose weight for myself and leave him alone? Or should I lose the weight for myself and make him regret how much of a jerk he was?
The thing is... I'm scared that if I do meet him again - He'll make me fall in love with him again... =(Fell in love with a guy who is a jerk to me because I'm fat =(?
Wow, what the hell. I think you should work on your own self worth, and stop deprecating on yourself. Just because your fat doesn鈥檛 make you less of a person. and the fact that you allowed him to treat you like that since day one does not bode well for you. why should he treat you any different if that鈥檚 the way he has been treating you since day one? Why don鈥檛 you focus on yourself and what you want because frankly I think your with this guy because he verbalizes the things that you feel you are worth. Do you think someone like that will care once you lose the weight? Their will always be something to feel bad about, regret, or get you down in life. why don鈥檛 you find someone who treats you with more respect then you seem to treat yourself. Not to mention, don鈥檛 think just because you are fat that means you wont find someone. Go to therapy and work on you inner issues because that鈥檚 the only way your ever going to crack the outer ones. Dump him, work on yourself, and I hope that you have an emotional and spiritual wake up and realize your self worth.Fell in love with a guy who is a jerk to me because I'm fat =(?
lol
Big girls are best in bed in my oppinion but yeah he is a jerk for using you like that.
you should move on. believe me there are plenty of guys out there that think you look beautiful.You deserve someone that thinks youre pretty and will make you feel it.
Only lose the weight if its for you. Definitely lose the chump, though...
Lose the weight, get a new bf, and takes pics with your new bf holding your hot new body and send them to him. This guy is a total asshole and is NOT GOOD for your self esteem. Just stop talking to him and stay away. He'll get his one day.
Dump his azz and find a better guy. And never go on dates on Craiglist... that place is full of losers and serial killers.
WOW.
he is a ******** jerk.********.
okay,
let's see what i will do if im in ur shoes.
hmm.
i would lose the weight and dressed like a hot babe go see him, and after he completely wooed by my gorgeousness and cant wait to get in my pants, then magically walk away.
here's my dialog.
me(dressed really hot.): hey (whatever his name is)
him:wow..you are gorgeous....
me:thanks.
him:want me to buy u some drinks?
okay.
(chatting)
him:will u marry me?you are so gorgeous...
me:oh i want u to meet someone(magically pulls out your boyfriend(whom u met when you are not so skinny.)
then watch his expression.
but seriously, he obviously is just treating u as a **** buddy. basically his sex toy or something.
and u said he wanted to marry u ONLY when u got skinnier?
are you kidding me???
if he truly wants to marry u instead of just want a girl to show off as arm candy then he will marry u when ur chubby!
okay, are you really obese? or overweight?
if yes, then i would suggest you lose weight until you reach a healthy amount of weight for your height. it's for your health reasons.and more guys to check u out!
if no, then i say don't lose weight.why would u lose weight to only impress a guy?and the guy isnt even truly love u.
he is using u sweetheart.
it makes me furious just think ';Anyways - fast forward, on Christmas he broke it off with me because he said I was fat and wanted nothing to do with me. He said he felt sorry for me and was just tagging me along. He did this AFTER i picked him up from the airport and made him dinner.';
what a ********.
he is always on the chase, let's say ur married to him and got skinny,what if when ur old and wrinkly, he's finding some young and hot girls to screw with?
drop him.
i say you drop him right now, he is so not worth your time when he's making fun of your body!
i would personally seek revenge on him though.
i want to kill him right now, seriously.
WOOO!
First of all. Be PROUD!
and second of all.
Lose weight and make him feel like a jerk!
make him regret everything. you'll find so many men that want you, he wont even be an option anymore!
He's effed up and has issues...you need to get away from him. CRAIGSLIST??? If you can trust someone through craigslist then you both have problems. People aren't even serious about buying on there...let alone relationships.
You shouldn't have to do anything to yourself unless it is for your happiness, not his. The key is that you should love yourself, no matter what other people think. Your true love will love you for who you truly are, imperfections and all.
You need to stop torturing yourself, and stop letting him pester you. This guy is a jerk. He does not treat you right, and does not deserve you. If he wanted to marry you, he would love you for everything you are and are not.
So stop letting him hurt your feelings. Loose complete contact with him and start a fresh life.
this is going to sound harsh, but i gotta say it...you would be a fool to have anything to do with him, ever again, whether or not you lose weight. whatever changes you make to yourself should be for the purpose of making you happy and healthy, not satisfying a superficial jackass. it might be hard, but trust me, nothing good can come of having anything to do with this guy. good luck and be strong!
omg no one desever an *** hole like him
he deserves to go back to iraq or whatever and get shot
****
i take that personally cuz anyone who is made fun of for being fat should never try to get with the person who is teasing them
It doesn't matter how much you weigh....if he loves you the way you deserve to be loved, he wouldn't care.
girl im kinda chubby to you know what works buy alli drink straight tea take the pills eat healthy work out do it for yourself.
Do what you need to do about your body for yourself, never someone else. Hopefully you have learned that you should never allow someone to disrepect you and keep on dating them. Find someone who loves you the way you are, whatever way you are at the time. I'm a big woman too, and my bf absolutely adores my body. Get rid of that effing loser.
this guy's a total jerk! i can appreciate that he can see that you're beautiful despite your size but he shouldn't be so vain and conceited. if you want to lose weight, do it for yourself and forget him. if you do see him again and think you're in love with him then it's just lust, plus i don't think that sleeping with a guy before marriage is really right (no offence)
Screw him! Ok lose the weight for you and make him wish he never joked about you. If he tries anything just mimic him, tell him ';im out of your league';.
I am 99% sure you know what to do already without advice but here goes. He sounds like a real turd and more but I can't put it in writing as that is not allowed here.
He is a classic ';user'; and you are much better off without him in your life. Looks are superficial to many people and they value the person for who they are not what they look like. If you want to lose weight do it for you and nobody else. Don't do anything because someone else told you (especially after all the verbal abuse he gave you).
Think of yourself --
Take care and be good to yourself.
There will be someone else who you will care about and they will love you for you!
Sal Can
Definitely loose the weight for yourself. It will make you more confident and find someone that would treat you good even if you did gain that weight back at some point later on.
If you do meet him again, i suggest not getting back with him, but do what you think is right.
once again an example of a man bein a pig lose the weight because u want to not because he wants u to and if do lose the weight u should meet up wit him again just to show him what he lost for bein such a jerk to u weight doesnt matter all that matters is that the person ur with makes u happy (if u do meet up wit him bring friends along with u so ur friends can help u not do anything with him)
Forget the fact that he is a jerk..
Why do you allow yourself to be treated like this.
If its not him it will somebody else.
People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you.
So what if your fat?? I'm sure this marine has got way more problems than you do.
Get some counseling, a new phone number, and a pair of walking shoes.
He is the biggest jerk ever!!!! NOBODY deserves to be treated this way! He dos not deserve you at all don't give him a piece of mind at all. You should lose weight for yourself!!! And when you do don't get back with him just remember how rude he was you deserve better! And trust me honey u can find better!!!! He will regret letting you go! Don't let people like this into your life they are worthless and don't deserve any of your time!!!
Okay, you must have some serious self esteem issues to back to a guy like that. I would've never gone back to him the first time he broke it off with me for a reason like that. You should find someone new, get out, be yourself cause a guy like that does not deserve a girl like you. The only reason why you keep going back is because you feel rejected, but you have no clue that there is going to be other great guys that will treat you way better than that.
Okay for one, never let a guy ever dis-respect you like that. Men will be ***** but at the same time if that was me and it was such a big deal that I was a ';big girl';, the first thing I would have done is kicked him to the curb. For somebody to break things off the way he did was not right and you dont deserve that, I mean telling you its over because you are fat? Thats especially not right. He's toying with your mind and seems a lil like he got you rapped around his finger..Also, if he broke up with you like that and said he just felt bad for you why would you go back and lay down with him? He is just using you to get in your pants. Which is not right, but you are following. To say that he was going to marrie you if you lose weight is not right either, dont blame yourself for him not marrieing you bcuz you did not lose weight, he is doing that for laughs to you and his buddies. Trust me I know how it feels to be a bigger girl, but never step down to anybodys level. I was a pretty heavy kid growing up and in my teen years started to thin out but now I have to lose it all in two months after I have my baby. Things are confusing im sure, but let him go. Find somebody who will love and care for you, you deserve much better.
Girl, you DO NOT need a guy who is going to treat you like that!!! Love is about being comfortable with the person your with. Do you honestly feel comfortable with him when he makes all these remarks about you? Do yourself a favor and move on. Try losing the weight so you feel better about yourself and then next time he sees you he is going to regret how bad he treated you. But just forget about him, the right guy will come your way. A guy who will accept you for who u are. Good luck!!
How do you fall out of love with someone?
How do you fall out of love with someone?? Is there a way to make the process quicker? I'm in love with my friend and he likes me but he doesnt want a relationship, so we decided to stay friends. I like him too much not to be friends with him, and he was actually begging me to still be friends, so it was a mutual decision.
How can I move on quicker? It's hard as we're still friends like I said...
Advice?How do you fall out of love with someone?
You cant, and as they say time heals all :(
No matter how hard it is you're gonna have to stick it out until you find someone else.
I still love my ex after 4 months of being apart...i still love him as much as i did the day i first met him.
So i think im pretty much fu*#ed for the rest of my life :(
But i guess not seeing him would have made it easier for u,
but you cant as you are mates.
So just stick it out and you'll find someone else hopefully soon!
Maybe when you so, he will get jealous and realise he actually does like you back then tell you he wants you...you never know.
And if that does happen, then its up to you who to be with.
Good luck!!How do you fall out of love with someone?
Unfortunately there is no way to control things like this...as much as it hurts, and I know it does. All you can do is wait and let time heal your wounds.
Although staying friends is fine, maybe you should get out and meet more people in the meantime, occupy your time with other things than talking to him at the moment. Make time for yourself, while letting him know you're not excluding him for your life in any way. There is nothing wrong with needing time to get over these things.
He should understand if he cares enough about you as a friend.
Good luck
LOL at AFWW LMFAO
I know what your going through and the best thing to do is ask for space, if he wants your friendship to work then ask for a little space.
then use the space to hangout with other people, other guys.
have fun
How can I move on quicker? It's hard as we're still friends like I said...
Advice?How do you fall out of love with someone?
You cant, and as they say time heals all :(
No matter how hard it is you're gonna have to stick it out until you find someone else.
I still love my ex after 4 months of being apart...i still love him as much as i did the day i first met him.
So i think im pretty much fu*#ed for the rest of my life :(
But i guess not seeing him would have made it easier for u,
but you cant as you are mates.
So just stick it out and you'll find someone else hopefully soon!
Maybe when you so, he will get jealous and realise he actually does like you back then tell you he wants you...you never know.
And if that does happen, then its up to you who to be with.
Good luck!!How do you fall out of love with someone?
Unfortunately there is no way to control things like this...as much as it hurts, and I know it does. All you can do is wait and let time heal your wounds.
Although staying friends is fine, maybe you should get out and meet more people in the meantime, occupy your time with other things than talking to him at the moment. Make time for yourself, while letting him know you're not excluding him for your life in any way. There is nothing wrong with needing time to get over these things.
He should understand if he cares enough about you as a friend.
Good luck
LOL at AFWW LMFAO
I know what your going through and the best thing to do is ask for space, if he wants your friendship to work then ask for a little space.
then use the space to hangout with other people, other guys.
have fun
Have you ever been in love with troubled person?
I am... besotted. It was passing acquaintance until 2 months ago when we met in the pub accidentally. He broke up with his boyfriend who abused him in every way (the police were involved). At the end of the night he asked if i wanted to have sex with him no strings attached(sorry for being graphic). I am single so said yes...I must admit at that time it was pure lust. He told me straight away he didn't want any commitment. Basically we spend night together once or twice a week.
He's reckless and i fear for his life. He smokes and drinks way too much and keeps losing weight. Sometimes he cries when we make love (no i don't hurt him). I don't know how to help him. I don't even dare say i fell in Love with him. I suggested that he gets counselling but he said the last thing he wanted to do was talking to someone who's job is to pretend they care about other people's problems.
I am at my desk at work but can't help thinking about him. He's a beautiful soulHave you ever been in love with troubled person?
The first guy I ever loved was incredibly troubled. He was a drug addict (every drug known to man, but mostly heroin), who would steal from anyone to feed his habit. We lasted for a year and a half, and when I couldn't take it any longer and told him it was either the drugs or me, he chose the drugs. Unfortunately for me, I still loved him. He finally died of a drug overdose a few years ago, and I felt terribly guilty for not staying with him longer and trying to help him. I'm now beginning to realize that it wasn't my job to fix his life. That was his own responsibility.
In your case, just spending time with him for now may be helpful. If you are available, when he finally decides to open up he'll appreciate you being there. But ultimately you have to realize that we are all responsible for our own lives. You can't fix his, especially if he won't open up about his problems. I completely understand how difficult this will be, but you are going to have to distance yourself from him a little emotionally so he doesn't drag you down. Think of it this way, if he were drowning, and you couldn't swim, you wouldn't jump in the water to save him, or you would both drown. So, support him, but don't get too emotionally attached until he gets his head on straight. Good luck to both!!Have you ever been in love with troubled person?
so....who's in love with you?
a beautiful soul. hahahaha
At a certain point people have the start relying on themselves. He needs to take responsibility and hopefully he will when he's ready, take the steps necessary to get better and snap out of it!
Do not take it upon yourself to fixed the damaged.
He's a victim who will take you down with him and then tread on you as he steps over you at the end! Sorry - I know that's not what you want to hear.
i tried to love myself..a brief infatuation,, i just wasn't worth it.
if a friend said they were going out with me i'd warn them off.
im a happy little soul as you can tell.
i aimed low in life...but missed.
im a bundle of defects looking for a personality.
if i walk into an empty room its still empty.
my shrink says i depress him.
apart from that
lifes good. i love my hamster. he loves me
be there for him, he will need this time with you, and hope he does not hurt u emotionally in the end. OMG, that is NOT to be taken literally!!. Bad choice of words! But u get my meaning....
I'm in love with a troubled girl, her pain effected me deeply. (still kinda does) but you cant do any more than BE SUPPORTIVE.
Show him affection, find different ways to show him you really are somebody that cares for him. Find any excuse possible to turn up on his doorstep with flowers....
xxoo
Finger_lickinggood
You can be supportive, but you can't fix someone who doesn't want to be fixed 鈥?and the only way people get around to getting themselves fixed is when the consequences of their actions become so painful that living the way they're currently living is no longer an option.
Some people hit ';bottom'; and then do something about their lives.
Some people don't hit ';bottom'; and their lives careen out of control and crash. That's going on with my stepbrother, who is in prison for seven DWIs, not paying child support to the ten children he fathered by different women, wrecking five cars, assaulting a policeman, etc. That's what happened with my ex (drug/sex addict, compulsive collector, alcoholic) who was killed in a pedestrian/automobile accident when he stepped backwards off the curb on the busiest street in the city while looking for his car keys which he dropped during a bender the night before.
Sometimes the best way to help another person is to learn how to help ourselves and *detach* from the other person's *problems* without detaching emotionally from the other person. Al-Anon was extremely helpful for me in learning how to do just that. I would recommend Al-Anon for anybody in the situation I went through or the situation you just described.
Check it out. Many gay and straight people have found it to be an invaluable resource.
as much as you would like to think you can ';change them'; you cant if he is destructive to himself he will more than likely be destructive to you. If you like yourself at all choose life over despair and heart ache
He's reckless and i fear for his life. He smokes and drinks way too much and keeps losing weight. Sometimes he cries when we make love (no i don't hurt him). I don't know how to help him. I don't even dare say i fell in Love with him. I suggested that he gets counselling but he said the last thing he wanted to do was talking to someone who's job is to pretend they care about other people's problems.
I am at my desk at work but can't help thinking about him. He's a beautiful soulHave you ever been in love with troubled person?
The first guy I ever loved was incredibly troubled. He was a drug addict (every drug known to man, but mostly heroin), who would steal from anyone to feed his habit. We lasted for a year and a half, and when I couldn't take it any longer and told him it was either the drugs or me, he chose the drugs. Unfortunately for me, I still loved him. He finally died of a drug overdose a few years ago, and I felt terribly guilty for not staying with him longer and trying to help him. I'm now beginning to realize that it wasn't my job to fix his life. That was his own responsibility.
In your case, just spending time with him for now may be helpful. If you are available, when he finally decides to open up he'll appreciate you being there. But ultimately you have to realize that we are all responsible for our own lives. You can't fix his, especially if he won't open up about his problems. I completely understand how difficult this will be, but you are going to have to distance yourself from him a little emotionally so he doesn't drag you down. Think of it this way, if he were drowning, and you couldn't swim, you wouldn't jump in the water to save him, or you would both drown. So, support him, but don't get too emotionally attached until he gets his head on straight. Good luck to both!!Have you ever been in love with troubled person?
so....who's in love with you?
a beautiful soul. hahahaha
At a certain point people have the start relying on themselves. He needs to take responsibility and hopefully he will when he's ready, take the steps necessary to get better and snap out of it!
Do not take it upon yourself to fixed the damaged.
He's a victim who will take you down with him and then tread on you as he steps over you at the end! Sorry - I know that's not what you want to hear.
i tried to love myself..a brief infatuation,, i just wasn't worth it.
if a friend said they were going out with me i'd warn them off.
im a happy little soul as you can tell.
i aimed low in life...but missed.
im a bundle of defects looking for a personality.
if i walk into an empty room its still empty.
my shrink says i depress him.
apart from that
lifes good. i love my hamster. he loves me
be there for him, he will need this time with you, and hope he does not hurt u emotionally in the end. OMG, that is NOT to be taken literally!!. Bad choice of words! But u get my meaning....
I'm in love with a troubled girl, her pain effected me deeply. (still kinda does) but you cant do any more than BE SUPPORTIVE.
Show him affection, find different ways to show him you really are somebody that cares for him. Find any excuse possible to turn up on his doorstep with flowers....
xxoo
Finger_lickinggood
You can be supportive, but you can't fix someone who doesn't want to be fixed 鈥?and the only way people get around to getting themselves fixed is when the consequences of their actions become so painful that living the way they're currently living is no longer an option.
Some people hit ';bottom'; and then do something about their lives.
Some people don't hit ';bottom'; and their lives careen out of control and crash. That's going on with my stepbrother, who is in prison for seven DWIs, not paying child support to the ten children he fathered by different women, wrecking five cars, assaulting a policeman, etc. That's what happened with my ex (drug/sex addict, compulsive collector, alcoholic) who was killed in a pedestrian/automobile accident when he stepped backwards off the curb on the busiest street in the city while looking for his car keys which he dropped during a bender the night before.
Sometimes the best way to help another person is to learn how to help ourselves and *detach* from the other person's *problems* without detaching emotionally from the other person. Al-Anon was extremely helpful for me in learning how to do just that. I would recommend Al-Anon for anybody in the situation I went through or the situation you just described.
Check it out. Many gay and straight people have found it to be an invaluable resource.
as much as you would like to think you can ';change them'; you cant if he is destructive to himself he will more than likely be destructive to you. If you like yourself at all choose life over despair and heart ache
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