Anyways, he stayed around because he said I was really pretty but I was a big girl. We had sex and were dating and such but he would always make fat remarks and touch me around my tummy and crack jokes.
Fast forward, on Christmas he broke it off with me because he said I was fat and wanted nothing to do with me. He said he felt sorry for me and was just tagging me along. He did this AFTER I picked him up from the airport and made him dinner. (he used me to drop him off at airport which was a 40 minute drive and pick him up from after his 2 week vacation making me thing we were bf/gf and didn鈥檛 drop the breaking up stuff until AFTER I cooked him dinner and did all this stuff)
He broke it off. Then he afterwards kept contacting me and calling me on yahoo messenger, e.t.c. So we got together and fooled around again and I thought we were dating. He said we weren鈥檛 - so I assumed friends with benefits.
Later comes to realize he told me that he planned on marrying me when I lost the weight because he said I was a good potential wife. I just thought he was kidding but he was serious.
I never did lose the weight (even though I鈥檓 trying really hard for myself %26amp; my health though) - and he would say mean things like, I don鈥檛 like fat people - I would rather get a prostitute then associate myself with a fat person. ';Id rather have a skinny hooker then a piece of lard any day'; Let his friends say mean things about me and pretend their him overseas and send rude emails like 鈥渉ave you lost weight yet?'; ';I don鈥檛 like fatties';.
Now he says he wants NOTHING to do with me.
I sometimes ask - so what if I lose the weight? You would try to get with me? He would say - I don鈥檛 want to answer ';what if's'; because I know that will never happen.
He also said I would be out of his league if I did lose the weight because I鈥檓 pretty - so that鈥檚 why he sort of kept me around. Also that he鈥檚 really shy to meet other girls and that he鈥檚 with me only because he鈥檚 lonely and stupid comments like that...
I know I should move on鈥?but should I just lose weight for myself and leave him alone? Or should I lose the weight for myself and make him regret how much of a jerk he was?
The thing is... I'm scared that if I do meet him again - He'll make me fall in love with him again... =(Fell in love with a guy who is a jerk to me because I'm fat =(?
Wow, what the hell. I think you should work on your own self worth, and stop deprecating on yourself. Just because your fat doesn鈥檛 make you less of a person. and the fact that you allowed him to treat you like that since day one does not bode well for you. why should he treat you any different if that鈥檚 the way he has been treating you since day one? Why don鈥檛 you focus on yourself and what you want because frankly I think your with this guy because he verbalizes the things that you feel you are worth. Do you think someone like that will care once you lose the weight? Their will always be something to feel bad about, regret, or get you down in life. why don鈥檛 you find someone who treats you with more respect then you seem to treat yourself. Not to mention, don鈥檛 think just because you are fat that means you wont find someone. Go to therapy and work on you inner issues because that鈥檚 the only way your ever going to crack the outer ones. Dump him, work on yourself, and I hope that you have an emotional and spiritual wake up and realize your self worth.Fell in love with a guy who is a jerk to me because I'm fat =(?
lol
Big girls are best in bed in my oppinion but yeah he is a jerk for using you like that.
you should move on. believe me there are plenty of guys out there that think you look beautiful.You deserve someone that thinks youre pretty and will make you feel it.
Only lose the weight if its for you. Definitely lose the chump, though...
Lose the weight, get a new bf, and takes pics with your new bf holding your hot new body and send them to him. This guy is a total asshole and is NOT GOOD for your self esteem. Just stop talking to him and stay away. He'll get his one day.
Dump his azz and find a better guy. And never go on dates on Craiglist... that place is full of losers and serial killers.
WOW.
he is a ******** jerk.********.
okay,
let's see what i will do if im in ur shoes.
hmm.
i would lose the weight and dressed like a hot babe go see him, and after he completely wooed by my gorgeousness and cant wait to get in my pants, then magically walk away.
here's my dialog.
me(dressed really hot.): hey (whatever his name is)
him:wow..you are gorgeous....
me:thanks.
him:want me to buy u some drinks?
okay.
(chatting)
him:will u marry me?you are so gorgeous...
me:oh i want u to meet someone(magically pulls out your boyfriend(whom u met when you are not so skinny.)
then watch his expression.
but seriously, he obviously is just treating u as a **** buddy. basically his sex toy or something.
and u said he wanted to marry u ONLY when u got skinnier?
are you kidding me???
if he truly wants to marry u instead of just want a girl to show off as arm candy then he will marry u when ur chubby!
okay, are you really obese? or overweight?
if yes, then i would suggest you lose weight until you reach a healthy amount of weight for your height. it's for your health reasons.and more guys to check u out!
if no, then i say don't lose weight.why would u lose weight to only impress a guy?and the guy isnt even truly love u.
he is using u sweetheart.
it makes me furious just think ';Anyways - fast forward, on Christmas he broke it off with me because he said I was fat and wanted nothing to do with me. He said he felt sorry for me and was just tagging me along. He did this AFTER i picked him up from the airport and made him dinner.';
what a ********.
he is always on the chase, let's say ur married to him and got skinny,what if when ur old and wrinkly, he's finding some young and hot girls to screw with?
drop him.
i say you drop him right now, he is so not worth your time when he's making fun of your body!
i would personally seek revenge on him though.
i want to kill him right now, seriously.
WOOO!
First of all. Be PROUD!
and second of all.
Lose weight and make him feel like a jerk!
make him regret everything. you'll find so many men that want you, he wont even be an option anymore!
He's effed up and has issues...you need to get away from him. CRAIGSLIST??? If you can trust someone through craigslist then you both have problems. People aren't even serious about buying on there...let alone relationships.
You shouldn't have to do anything to yourself unless it is for your happiness, not his. The key is that you should love yourself, no matter what other people think. Your true love will love you for who you truly are, imperfections and all.
You need to stop torturing yourself, and stop letting him pester you. This guy is a jerk. He does not treat you right, and does not deserve you. If he wanted to marry you, he would love you for everything you are and are not.
So stop letting him hurt your feelings. Loose complete contact with him and start a fresh life.
this is going to sound harsh, but i gotta say it...you would be a fool to have anything to do with him, ever again, whether or not you lose weight. whatever changes you make to yourself should be for the purpose of making you happy and healthy, not satisfying a superficial jackass. it might be hard, but trust me, nothing good can come of having anything to do with this guy. good luck and be strong!
omg no one desever an *** hole like him
he deserves to go back to iraq or whatever and get shot
****
i take that personally cuz anyone who is made fun of for being fat should never try to get with the person who is teasing them
It doesn't matter how much you weigh....if he loves you the way you deserve to be loved, he wouldn't care.
girl im kinda chubby to you know what works buy alli drink straight tea take the pills eat healthy work out do it for yourself.
Do what you need to do about your body for yourself, never someone else. Hopefully you have learned that you should never allow someone to disrepect you and keep on dating them. Find someone who loves you the way you are, whatever way you are at the time. I'm a big woman too, and my bf absolutely adores my body. Get rid of that effing loser.
this guy's a total jerk! i can appreciate that he can see that you're beautiful despite your size but he shouldn't be so vain and conceited. if you want to lose weight, do it for yourself and forget him. if you do see him again and think you're in love with him then it's just lust, plus i don't think that sleeping with a guy before marriage is really right (no offence)
Screw him! Ok lose the weight for you and make him wish he never joked about you. If he tries anything just mimic him, tell him ';im out of your league';.
I am 99% sure you know what to do already without advice but here goes. He sounds like a real turd and more but I can't put it in writing as that is not allowed here.
He is a classic ';user'; and you are much better off without him in your life. Looks are superficial to many people and they value the person for who they are not what they look like. If you want to lose weight do it for you and nobody else. Don't do anything because someone else told you (especially after all the verbal abuse he gave you).
Think of yourself --
Take care and be good to yourself.
There will be someone else who you will care about and they will love you for you!
Sal Can
Definitely loose the weight for yourself. It will make you more confident and find someone that would treat you good even if you did gain that weight back at some point later on.
If you do meet him again, i suggest not getting back with him, but do what you think is right.
once again an example of a man bein a pig lose the weight because u want to not because he wants u to and if do lose the weight u should meet up wit him again just to show him what he lost for bein such a jerk to u weight doesnt matter all that matters is that the person ur with makes u happy (if u do meet up wit him bring friends along with u so ur friends can help u not do anything with him)
Forget the fact that he is a jerk..
Why do you allow yourself to be treated like this.
If its not him it will somebody else.
People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you.
So what if your fat?? I'm sure this marine has got way more problems than you do.
Get some counseling, a new phone number, and a pair of walking shoes.
He is the biggest jerk ever!!!! NOBODY deserves to be treated this way! He dos not deserve you at all don't give him a piece of mind at all. You should lose weight for yourself!!! And when you do don't get back with him just remember how rude he was you deserve better! And trust me honey u can find better!!!! He will regret letting you go! Don't let people like this into your life they are worthless and don't deserve any of your time!!!
Okay, you must have some serious self esteem issues to back to a guy like that. I would've never gone back to him the first time he broke it off with me for a reason like that. You should find someone new, get out, be yourself cause a guy like that does not deserve a girl like you. The only reason why you keep going back is because you feel rejected, but you have no clue that there is going to be other great guys that will treat you way better than that.
Okay for one, never let a guy ever dis-respect you like that. Men will be ***** but at the same time if that was me and it was such a big deal that I was a ';big girl';, the first thing I would have done is kicked him to the curb. For somebody to break things off the way he did was not right and you dont deserve that, I mean telling you its over because you are fat? Thats especially not right. He's toying with your mind and seems a lil like he got you rapped around his finger..Also, if he broke up with you like that and said he just felt bad for you why would you go back and lay down with him? He is just using you to get in your pants. Which is not right, but you are following. To say that he was going to marrie you if you lose weight is not right either, dont blame yourself for him not marrieing you bcuz you did not lose weight, he is doing that for laughs to you and his buddies. Trust me I know how it feels to be a bigger girl, but never step down to anybodys level. I was a pretty heavy kid growing up and in my teen years started to thin out but now I have to lose it all in two months after I have my baby. Things are confusing im sure, but let him go. Find somebody who will love and care for you, you deserve much better.
Girl, you DO NOT need a guy who is going to treat you like that!!! Love is about being comfortable with the person your with. Do you honestly feel comfortable with him when he makes all these remarks about you? Do yourself a favor and move on. Try losing the weight so you feel better about yourself and then next time he sees you he is going to regret how bad he treated you. But just forget about him, the right guy will come your way. A guy who will accept you for who u are. Good luck!!
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