Is this love, or is it lust? How do you know what he's feeling?

(a friend of tiffanys)

when your man comes home and your more excited then he is to see you. (he was gone for two weeks) When you make love and your the only one who does four play (he jumps into the sex, always) He never touches you or carresses you but when he does its within seconds and he starts to fall asleep doing so. When after making love he doesnt want to cuddle but wants to wash up real quick, and while your cleaning yourself he rushes to play game or to use the computer. The man says he feels obligated to explore your body if you talk to him about wanting four play (romantically of course) He gets off the bed to grab his phone while in the middle of making love, just in case his job calls. This happens frequently, the getting the phone in the middle just happened once so far.

For your birthday he says he's going to do something, but ends up playing game instead (he forgot) You two hardly ever get to see each other so you plan to have a day to yourselves, and instead he does something else. this man plays games all the time. When you want to just cuddle and talk, he falls asleep within minutes. He says he will do something with you, but doesnt because of a game.

should I let this bother me? it hurts my heart when he forgets, I know and I can see he doesnt want to touch me but wants me to touch him only and then jump into it. any advice? I tried backing off a little but then he would only get mad and tells me to not act differently. Is this love, or is it lust? How do you know what he's feeling?
Tell him how much it hurts you let him read what you just wrote or just tell him. How old is he? playing games all day long like a 16 year old I feel sorry for you I really do. I think he loves you but he has begun to take you for granted. He's used to you always being there and being the perfect little wife maybe he see's you as his mother someone to take care of him. I think you should talk to him let him know how you feel and tell him something has to change or you will too because you feel unloved.Is this love, or is it lust? How do you know what he's feeling?
Yep. That sounds like a dude.
too much. shorten question about 3/4.
sounds like a typical man to me
Sweets, he is an inconsiderate, heartless prick who Im sorry to say doesnt love you. If he loved you then all those little things you want to happen will just naturally happen. He knows that which is why he gets on the defense when you try and talk to him about it.




You need to STOP thinking a man thinks like a woman!
It's not love or lust. It's immaturity. Find a more mature guy.
If this is a boyfriend or whatever loose this guy. Obviously he is just using you for sex and doesn't really want the gushing stuff that comes with the relationship. His priorities are pretty messed up and you are not that important to him. Re-evaluate this man or yours friends man and let her know that she needs to move on and find someone who is grown up and doesn't play games. Its the real world and you don't just stop making love to someone when the phone rings, thats crap and I would immediately push him off and let him know a thing or two. Good luck for your friend? :) Take care!
im sorry i really hope that things get better in the future for you both and that he would realize you have feelings to and he should know about how you feel because not everything is even about him its about you to you 2 work in the relationship you should be building eachothers happyness and trust
You are low on his proirty list. You need to up your sexual performance or consider a new guy.
Sounds like a typical bloke to me, on a serious note, i found my hubby did this, until i actually came straight out and confronted him about it, now were back to lovey dovey. Talk to him hun, you've nothing to lose!
maybe he's not in love with you. he don't want to hurt u so is staying with you. or he might be seeing someone else.



because if my husband goes out of town for work, it could only be 2 days. he always shows me he loves me and is happy to see me.



leave him and find better for urself
This sounds like a typical man (I will even guess he is in his early 40's!) who feels that he does plenty for you all of the time so there should not be any special messages, like flowers or foreplay. For example: He pays more of the bills than you. He feels inwardly that you owe him pleasure. He is not doing this to be cruel, it is simply logical to him. If he has been this way since you met him, then I highly doubt that he is cheating. What you need to decide is what the pros and cons in this relationship are. Do you love him? Can you continue to live like this (b/c he will be in his 60's b/4 he starts to change) and accept his personailty? You already know what he does and doesn't do. It's time for you to decide what you will or will not accept. This should include a good talk with him too.