Thursday 28 October 2010

How do i make my boyfriend fall back in love with me? 10 POINTS TO ANYONE THAT HELPS?! pleassee?

well long story short me and my boyfriend have been having problems(arguments) for the past i would say two weeks. he told me that arguments were making him a little unhappy. and i told him that i will do everything i an to fix it. we havent argued since. but on sunday we were at church and i though everything was going great between us we were getting long well and we were having fun and i was making him laugh. but shortly after i got home he texted me and said that he was not happy where our relationship was at. he said it was beause we dont see eachother enough. we decided to take a 3 day break to think about things. but he texted me the next day and and said he couldnt wait that long. so we talked and he was like yeah lets give us one more shot to see if we can work out. but 5 minutes later he said well maybe we should just let go now. its been great with you blah blah blah i think its time just to move on. and then i called him and talked it out with him and we decided to give it another shot and that i have this week to make things work. we were good for about 2 days and then last night he was said ashley im going to be completely honest with you. i dont think we should do this were just like trying to be together again like the way it was but its never gonna happen. this came out of no where. so i called him again and we talked it out. he said he didnt love me anymore. he said he likes me enough to try to be with me though. he said he didnt feel the magic anymore. and he said that we have this weekend to try again. and he said that he doesnt know if he wants to be with me and that hes pretty muh just doing this for me..





well yeah how can i make him feel a connection, how can i make him fall in love with me again?


we have been going out for almost a year and we are both 15 years old. and last night we deided to pretty muh start over but he said hes going to have our problems in the back of his mind but hes not going to think about it. and we decided at the end of the weekend we will decide if we want to break up.





what can i do?


this is just breaking my heart. hes my first love and we have talked about getting married before. this all happened so suddenly and im still not exactly sure where all this came from


anyone have any tips?? pleasseee help me in any wayHow do i make my boyfriend fall back in love with me? 10 POINTS TO ANYONE THAT HELPS?! pleassee?
There’s no use beating yourself up over things that happened in the past. And there’s definitely no use in wasting so much time regretting your past decision to get together with your crush’s best friend. You can’t go back in time and change what happened, so the important thing now is to use that relationship to learn and grow, and realize it will help prepare you for your next romantic connection.





As far as the strong feelings you have for your crush, it definitely is a slippery slope because he’s felt hurt by you before and has already finished the process of “getting over you.” So in all fairness to him, don’t forge ahead unless you’re absolutely sure of your feelings.





In the case that you’re positive he’s what you want, I suggest writing him a letter.


Even if you choose not to actually give him this letter, just getting all your feelings out will be so cathartic for you. Tell him how you feel about him, why you know that he’s the one you want to be with, and how upset you are that you two aren’t together. Whether you decide to give it to him or not, be proud of yourself for being proactive in working through your feelings.





And should you give it to him, even if he decides he doesn’t feel the same way, continue to feel good about yourself for knowing that you were brave enough to speak your mind, stand behind your feelings and let him know just how special he is to you. And if he’s such a good guy, he will realize how wonderful you are and respect you for your courageous step.How do i make my boyfriend fall back in love with me? 10 POINTS TO ANYONE THAT HELPS?! pleassee?
talk-to-him about it. if he doesn't love you, there's barely a chance sorry. but the best way of helping is to talk to him. and don't back up!!!!!!!
you can't MAKE anyone fall in love with you sweetie.
bring back the old you then maybe he mite notice that u r different and he mite fall for u again
im not reading that..





because you can't make anyone do anything. especially if it deals with love. if you know what love it you'd understand its not something that can be turned on and off. it just happens.
Fulfill any of his sexual desires if you really want him back.
Hahaha, you can't make him. YOu're probably young, so go do something else and get over it. Wait until you have real problems like divorce or making the decision to marry someone. PLease.
just gonna take time, be yourself. have fun
honestly he knows he can have u whenever he wants. you sound pathetic to him and you being all ';ill do anything'; wont change it. i know i may sound like a huge ***** but honestly he will run back if you make him scared. it is the hardest thing to do but .. just tell him unless he can devote himself 100 percent then he cant have u and seem okay with that and leave him alone for a while...then he will come back , promise
15 is way too early to talk about getting married and apparently too young to realize that you can't make someone love you.
I feel for you, but the only thing you can do is move on. If you want this guy to fall back in love with you just live a better life, and get a new boyfriend. Then this guy will want you back, but you'll probably have something better
this is sooooo long i didnt read it! but if he has fallen out of love with u! then dont waste ur time trying to get him back! its hopeless! try to salvage a friendship!
You can't make him come back because chances are, he wants another girl. You have done everything you can except for one thing....MAKE HIM JEALOUS!!!
Give it time. Give him space to decide what he wants. Tell him how you feel and leave him to make his decision. You cant force someone to love you and do you really want to be with someone who doesnt?
wow that hurts





but i think you should let him what to do like the whole day pretty much and then maybe an hour or two before he has to go or w/e u should say that u love him and start kissing him and see where it goes...dont have sex...but at least kiss...at most make out with him
I hate to say this, but if he falls in out and of love with you every couple of days than it probably isn't going to work out long term.


But if you want to give it a last shot, make him supper, and spend your meal talking about what you both can do to try and work out the kinks between you. If he tells you he doesn't think it will work again, than you need to move on.


You are both young, and everyone has a first love. There will be others, you still have a long time to date and get to know other people and live your life.
Act like you are over him and you just wanna be friends. Guys always want what they don't think they can have. Maybe even talk to him about another guy you like since you are ';friends';. He should come around. Unless he has another girl he is interested in. Then you are giving him a easy way out and you can move on.
I guess I'm not getting 10 points. Sounds like he is playing games. Your relationship is definitely over.





Who is the other woman he is interested in??? I bet that is what is going on. And he is confused.





Either way get over him move on, sometimes men realize what they had once it is gone. Show him your not playing his game and get a life he will get jealous especially once you start dating. If it has no affect well your relationship is 100% over.





Good luck!
I suggest you fix your errors (if there were any) and tell him you cannot forget him ....


Or try making him like you again by turning yourself into a new girl (looks, personality...)





Even better but this is third choice, if he doesnt ever want you again, then slap him one tight one in the face and poor anything ovver him...
maybe you should just try to move on. it seems like he doesnt want to try it again and is giving you alot of excuses. i think the best thing for u is to try and move on.. your only 15.. trust me he wont be your only love.. why should you have to do everything to make him happy.. its a 2 way st. he should really try hard and it sems like he isnt..





good luck
Maybe you should let go then honey. It sounds terrible, and i'd be heartbroken if this was happening with me and my boyfriend, so i really feel bad for you. But you cant make someone love you, alls you can do is be someone worth loving. Try surround yourself with positive people and things, they do say time is the best healer.





Good luck, xxxx
ok look u buy him something nice for valintines day and then give him a kiss and tell him u like love him stil and u want him to fall back in love with ok
Take it slow! Tell him your feelings! Maybe ask him why he keeps mocking you like he is!?! it will help, it worked with me?!
This is a mistake that i've made a lot of times, so please llisten to what i'm saying and try it.





Stop talking for two weeks. When the tension is that high, you need to get away from eachother for a while. He will realize that he misses you and he'll think its mature of you. Eveerytime i've done that, it's worked.


wait two weeeks. wait two weeks. Don't talk, say you need space too. He will not meet another girl in that time. He is more likely to meet someone else if you ARE talking so dont irrationalize. Listen seriously. After the two weeks are done, call him and say you miss him and that you wanna meet for coffee and talk about the two of you. Dont specify where things are going/ whether your friends or dating... just be really sweet and pleasant. Meet for coffee and dont only mention it briefly no one really wants to talk about problems, talk about something pleasant - laugh a lot- flirt- it will remind him of why he fell in love with you in the first place. hell bring it up in conversation, let him bring it up- men like to be the ones to bring things up. I'll be suprised if he doesnt want you back.
Well, on one hand, you can never make someone fall in love with you. But on the other, it is possible to make someone interested in you again. As my Grandmother said, the way to a man's hart is throuth his stomach. Cook your man some good meals, and don't hover over him too much because desperate woman is not an attractive one. Another little secret, give him oral sex whenever he wants, and he will never want to trade you for another. Good luck!
honey, this boy is not worth your time. i realize what it's like to have a first love and think that you want to be with that person for the rest of your life, but the reality of it is, if he doesn't love you, he doesn't love you. and truthfully that means he's either bored with you or more interested in someone else. you are 15 years old hun, you have better things to be doing than waiting around for a guy who is stringing you along and making you jump through hoops. he doesn't sound nearly mature enough for a real relationship. try being friends for awhile, see if that changes anything. i don't mean to sound rude at all by the way, i know this situation totally sucks, i've been there. i dated a guy from when i was 14 to almost 16, and i thought we were made for each other and things were amazing. then we kept breaking up and getting back together and breaking up again. then he moved away, and last time i saw him (i was 18) he had a douchebag haircut and acted like a total dick. so i didn't really miss out on anything, did i? guys come and go hun, and i think you need to let this one go.
I'm sorry to tell you what you don't want to hear but there are a few major problems I see.





First is that no one can put a time limit, let alone such a short one, on ';making it work';. If your boyfriend were really into making it work he wouldn't put that kind of unrealistic pressure on YOU to make it all perfect in a day or over a weekend. That is not what love is or how it works.





Second is that you can not, ever, and I mean NEVER ';make someone fall in love with you';. It's not something you control. It sounds like it was fun but when things started to get difficult, as long term relationships always do and require effort, he just bailed out.





Also as much as it hurts, and feels like the end of the world, and feels like it means everything, you mentioned marriage even, you ARE only 15 years old and you have a long, long life ahead of you.





I am 35 years old and I am still only figuring out how to make a relationship work. It's a lifetime process.





I think you need to move on from him. He has said and done a lot of things that sound like he really is not making any effort and the longer you try to force it the more hurt you are going to get.





The most unappealing and unattractive thing to anyone (girl or boy) is when someone they don't love or want anymore is desperately trying to force it. You can not beg for love. You can not make someone love you. If he can't see why he should be with you, you are not going to conceive him, you will only push him away farther.





He is also only 15 and probably needs to be a kid in ways still, not to be ';tied'; down to such a serious relationship. He also probably doesn't know what he feels from day to day. Girls do tend to be much more mature at your age then boys.





I know it hurts and its not easy to just let go. But respect yourself and don't let him disrespect you either.





Stay strong honey, you will find love again.
You can't make him fall in love with. I'm sorry. He's trying to let you down easy, because he cares for you, but it will never be more than that.





He's been honest with you, which makes him a bigger man than most, and at 15, that's huge.





You said he's your first love. And that's exactly what he'll always be, your first. There will be a second, and third, and probably many more before you find the ';one';.





Take some time to let your heart heal, and set this boy free, so you can both be happy, you both deserve it. Then have fun. Meet new people, make new friends, and never settle for less than the best.





You'll always have your memories, and he'll always be special. But I promise you, there will be other types of special that you will hold just as dear.





My first love and I have become very good friends in the years that followed our relationship, now, 10 years later, he's a very good friend of my family, fiance and daughter. It took us a long time to figure out what exactly our roles were meant to be in each others lives, but I wouldn't trade what we have now for the world. I'm not saying there wasn't a lot of heart break along the way, because there was. But the heart is strong, and gets through.





So my tip to you is, invite your girlfriends over, chow down on some ice cream, chocolate, or what ever comfort food does it for you, and re-discover just how great friendship can be, because unlike young relationships, friendships are forever.
Aww...


Being that you guys are only 15, this should have been expected. You're both still so young, it's a lot easier for guys to feel like there's more out there for them and not except what's good in their life right now. It seems to me like he really wants to make things work, but he has his own problems. He's looking for a perfect relationship, which doesn't exist. He needs to realize that you guys are going to fight... but it's essential to every good relationship. If anything it means you guys care about eachother... anyway... I think he's trying for more than just you because no guy would do it just for the girl, especially if he ';doesn't love her anymore.';





I say just spend as much time as possible with him. Talk very little. When you do talk, talk about good memories and things you two did to make eachother smile. Kiss him and hug him and tell him how much you need him and how you'll do anything to make it work. Show how much you love him through actions more than words. Because actions do speak louder. That's the best way to tell someone you care and love them... not by saying it, but by showing it.


If you really love him, don't let him slip through your fingers, and if things don't work after that... then I guess you're just going to have to accept it.





I've been there before though, and I know how bad it hurts and how bad it will if it ends for good. Your first love never truely dies. But don't grieve too long, because somebody out there is dieing to talk to you and treat you like a princess, I promise! It'll be hard to let go, but worth it because what he's putting you through right now just isn't fair. It takes two to tango. So don't take all the blame. If the relationship fails it's not because you didn't try, it's because he didn't.





Best wishes hun! I'm here if you need to talk.





Hope this helped!
Just basing this off of your title.





You can't make anyone love you, if it's over then it's over and there is nothing you can do about it. Live your life and move on.
Okay so I can say i've been in your shoes before... and actually in the same situation without the breaking up and confessions. All I can tell you that you shouldn't act like someone or something you're not. You love him... So just keep that in mind. Show that you love him and totally discard the fact that you guys just had a crap load of fights. Don't bring up anything sad, be yourself and just start fresh. The ';Today is today, and yesterday already happened and is in the past'; attitude. It's a new day, act that way. Talk about your day ask about his... Don't show the pain you're actually feeling. Just have fun with him, I mean a couple passionate kisses make knock some sense into him. Do something you guys both enjoy, and let what needs to happen happen. Don't force anything. But please don't forget to be yourself. You wouldn't want him to love you for someone you aren't.

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