It depresses me that I will never fall in love...?

I'm 19, just started Uni in September. Never had a boyfriend - well, unless if you count the *censored* of a boyfriend when I was 13 [we never kissed though, despite the 'relationship' going on for a long time]. I dumped him because I found out he was a... well, I could say all sorts of things...





Anyway, technically, then, I've never had a boyfriend, and I fear that I will die unloved. My mother keeps annoying me by saying things like, ';At least I had a boyfriend when I was 17, so I wasn't a complete loser...'; [...like me, mum?]





They all say things like I will find my match etc, but people make such a fuss of love, making it seem like life isn't worth living unless if you are with someone... it seems like I'm missing out, and I'm constantly reminded of this loneliness. Not helped by the fact that I haven't made a single friend here. In fact, people avoid sitting next to me in lectures. I didn't think I was that hideous, but....... maybe I was wrong?





Anyway, I should ask a question now. I could ask a lot of things, like, ';Will I find my match?'; ';How do I find love?'; etc, but I guess what I really want to ask is:





';How do I cope with the realisation that I will never be loved?';It depresses me that I will never fall in love...?
Be careful, you don't want to saddle yourself with a prophecy that you don't want.





You've heard ';you are what you eat';? Pretty understandable, eat healthy and you're more likely to be healthy





I'm telling you part of what you are is what you think. What you focus on, you attract.





Your mom may be trying to encourage you, or trying to tear you down...........without meeting her, I really don't know.





She had a boyfriend at 17..........big deal. Plenty of people don't date until they are in their 20's, and they are certainly not ';losers';.





I know a mom who claimed her son would never be married, because ';no woman would have him';. He's happily married now.





Quite frankly, to me it seems you just haven't met the right guy.





I went without a date for 10 years, I liked women, but wasn't ready to deal with one.





When I met my wife, everything changed.








You're only 19, you've only been interested in guys for a short time, (6 , maybe 7 years?), find the one that you want to be with long term.





Speak positive things over yourself, rather than buying into the negativity your mom seems to spew.





You can't control who you meet, what you can control is who you are when they meet you.





If you are depressed, morose, and negative, thinking you're a ';loser';, (hmmm, I'd reject that idea right now), most guys won't find that attractive.





On the other hand, if you are positive, kind, and upbeat about life and it's possibilities, guys will flock around you.





People want to be around people that are positive, and treat them kindly.





Most of that is attitude, in a lot of ways, your behavior will determine your future.








Go for it














LuckIt depresses me that I will never fall in love...?
No one can answer that, sadly. Many people say that there is someone for everyone. I think about that too. But I'm only 15 so it may be to early to think like that. The same for you, you are only 19. Don't worry about it.
I definitely agree with the first answer!








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Your Mom is mean!!!!!!!





I'm sure you have heard this a million times, but you will fall in love when you least expect it. If you look for it you will not find it.





Have fun hanging out with your friends and go places or get a job where there is a lot of people your age working there; you are bound to meet people. Through meeting people, the more people you meet, the better your chances of meeting mr.right or mr.right now :)
Well with that attitude you wont be loved because you don't love yourself. I didn't make any friends at uni either and I'm currently single. Thing is I didnt mind being single and know I will meet someone eventually. Try and join in with uni stuff a bit more like clubs etc and those outside of uni. Dont alienate yourself otherwise you really will end up on your own.
The truth is you are still very young, and i really do believe you will find love , but it may take some time before you find the right man to settle down with.


The trick is to have fun , laugh and have some self confidence, socialise and you may not realise it but there will be a bunch of men with their eye on you, but they may also be shy and not as forward as you would like, so they may not come up to you and ask you for a date.


Try to make some female friends then socialise with them go out to a party , and you will meet people.You will have to try a few before you find mr right but remember its just as hard for men to find mrs right.


In the mean time , have some fun , and you will attract attention from the male kind as they will want to share your happiness.


Don't become a recluse as you will not meet anyone unless you make an effort yourself.


You will be loved , and i bet you will find your man sooner than you think.
I'm a 20 year old girl (nearly 21). I've never had a boyfriend, i've been on dates and kissed guys but never been in a proper serious relationship. I'm in my 3rd year of university at the moment and i'm enjoying going out with friends, going on girly holidays and just doing things to keep myself occupied (i'm currently interning for a fashion designer and will be doing another internship for a magazine in a few months).





I used to feel the same way you do now. But if you don't have any expectations then you'll never be disappointed. Just continue to live your life, go out with friends, get a part time job, do some volunteering or do an internship.





I think the reason why i'm still single is because I have such high expectations of guys, whether it be on a date or if i'm out with friends. All of my friends are in relationships and have been for the last 3/4 years whilst i've always been the single one. I even asked my best friend why I was still single and why other girls have boyfriends and she said it was because guys won't try and get girls who they think are ';out of their league';.





I think you should do the following:


-Get out more and meet people (look at the above suggestions)


-Enjoy your life and don't worry about being single for the rest of your life...we only live once


-Don't be so hard on yourself


-You're not a loser for never having had a boyfriend...you're only 19 (which is really young), a lot of people don't find their first boyfriend/girlfriend until they are way into their 30's, 40's or even 50's so don't give up





Good luck.x
I don't know the answer to your question but if it makes you feel any better I'm 19 and have NEVER had a boyfriend although I have kissed one person but I was drunk and it was crap and I couldn't feel my lips and that was 2 years ago so by now I still don't think if I got a boyfriend I'd be confident in kissing him the whole concept of a guy wanting a relationship physically or emotionally worries me infact and the older I get the more I worry about it, but if you never takes risks you'll never know and I still have hope after all I'm only 19 and so are you, you have years to find someone I know it feels like you will never be loved but love takes time, I've had a few guys approach me on nights out but I'm not looking for a one-nighter I'm looking for something more.





Regarding your mother she shouldn't say things like that, I don't know what to tell you on that one but you are not a loser.





If you ever want to talk more your welcome to message me. I hope I helped a little.
my friend is 28, she's never had a boyfriend. you're still 19, they say you will find love at uni, trust me, I've been in a long term relationship and it's something that I had to work on with him. it's also hard work even if you are faithful in relationships. I'm 25 and single and there would be times when I think what if I never find love but now I turn it around and say what if my love is around the corner this year or even this month.





I know all the guys I liked, they either take advantage of me because they only want sex from me, not a proper relationship. They only want harmless flirting and nothing else and that got me confused thinking that they like me too. so be careful with them types.